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Yummy mummy bear is out there for you
Last couple of girlfriends (especially the last one) I've really thought that she could've been the one. But the last one went all weird on me when I couldn't commmit to moving and I just thought fuck it, why am I even in this relationship if she doesn't take my feelings into account at all?
I am quite picky and I do want everything to be like Love Actually or Notting Hill, all Ronan Keating songs and stuff. Life isn't like that though, and I still don't think I've met anybody who really "gets" me. That's probably more to do with me than any of my exes. I don't actually trust my own emotions anymore, which is fucking with my head a bit justnow.
Not really bothered about having a girlfriend, to be honest it's always a bit of a change and I do quite like to do my own thing most of the time. It'd be really nice to have somebody who really proper gives a fuck about you, because a lot of my relationships have been half arsed or puppy love or me getting too attached. I'm maybe quite a selfish boyfriend too, which maybe explains quite a bit.
Not really no. I wonder sometimes but it's not something that scares me. If i got really desperate theres bound to be some ugly cunt out there that'll have me lol.
ah you wimen got it easy aint ya
Hmm no theres plenty of ugly girls. Get yourself one, or several, paper bags and your sorted.
Yeah but the divorce rate should make you feel better about the numbers. Harsh but strangely comforting.
I think it would be nice to be in a relationship, at least once. To get the first hand experience of someone else's passions, desires, pains, failures, successes, etc. And also being supported unconditionally by another human being; an intellectual equal that experiences with you the mystery and wonder of this reality. Seems like that would be helpful right now.
That's just put a horrid memory in my head from a few weeks back in which my brother was having a family meal to celebrate his 40th birthday and because I'm the youngest out of me and my brothers and the only one still single and not settled down, married with kids etc, he decided he would find it very funny to announce me as gay to the rest of the family. Most of whom believed him purely because I had no evidence to say I'd been in any relationships with any women.
llf, me likee. but ya know id fail da psych test, lol
i like the attitude, s a good one, btw all blokes arr crazy
It's not like I'm desperate to settle down. Marriage has never even entered my head. I just miss having someone to share stuff with, someone to take out and have a bit of fun with and someone to laugh with when you've had a shit day at work. I've got a great family and good friends, but sometimes there's just that hole that none of them can fill, and only that special person can...
Its not been helped recently that everyone else in the house has had their partners hear all at the same time. One of them even got engaged. Crazy.
Although saying that 2 months ago I was adamant I wasn't ready to settle down, didn't want to and so on cos everything was changing around me. How quickly things change or maybe I'm just a fickle female underneath it all or perhaps it is everything thats going on thats making me think things through more.
However I also sit and think I'm 25 now. If I've yet to meet someone, get to know them, move in together and settle down. I'm gonna be looking at probably 5 years and I'm starting to push being a youngish mum and getting 3 kids in in that time
I've been hurt before, and always thought I would never meet anyone again, but after a while, I always have. There are loads and loads of guys (or girls) out there that I (or anyone) could go out with, get on with and possibly end up marrying/having kids with. I don't believe in "the one".
Having said all that, when I go out with a guy to me it's always more about being really good friends rather than violins and stuff.
I dont want marriage and i dont want kids, so i think i will have trouble finding someone that wants the same as me long term in addition to all the other things i look for in a man
I've tried to explain this to people as the one line i always get is "why are you single, you're a lovely young lass, it's such a shame" but people don't seem to get the fact that i choose to be single. I get asked out for drinks more nowadays which i put down to the fact that i'm more confident and happy in myself than i ever used to be and that maybe that comes across in the way i am with people. But the reason i don't date these people is because i know and feel that nothing serious will come out of it from my end so what's the point in leading them on when you know your heart isn't in it.
I have so many friends who are young and in a serious relationships or married and their relationships are a joke. They do the ah you poor single person etc. but i would rather be single and happy than married to a cheating bastard or dealing with a drinker with a gambling problem.
The main problem i have is with the way i am. I'm quite an honest, straightforward lass (my builder friends tell me i'm rather bloke like in my views) and i think a few of the blokes i've dated have been put off once they realise i'm quite a bolshy cow. My dad always says it'll take a strong man to be my equal which i suppose is the crux of the matter. I'd like someone who is my equal and so far i've never really found him, or i have and it's just not worked out. But life is much more fun trying to find him :thumb: