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An Anul Sex Question

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
My wife and I have sort of stumbled onto having anul sex for the first time today. I have always played around down there on her with my finger but that is where it mostly stayed. Well today we were fooling around and we started to "spoon" and the next thing is that we slowly started to have anul sex. We didn't use Lube or anything but it was slow at first. She also had no signs of pain as well. Now is this a normal thing to happen? My wife is very faithful and I know that this was our first time. Also I did not use a condom and I have read everywhere to use a condom. Neither one of us have any STDs and we are very clean people. What are the risks of doing this bare and can I get any infections/diseases? Thanks

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my first time I didn't use anything and I was fine, a little sore afterwards but didn't hurt at all really. I think the most important thing is to be relaxed because then it's easier, and if you trust each other then she probably was.

    My boyfriend was amazed it was so easy - he kept asking if I was SURE it was my first time. I was like...:chin: it's probably the sort of thing I would have noticed a guy doing to be honest...

    not sure about the infection thing, the only thing I know for sure is that you shouldn't vary from anal to normal without washing in between.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    long lost lady wrote: »
    my first time I didn't use anything and I was fine, a little sore afterwards but didn't hurt at all really. I think the most important thing is to be relaxed because then it's easier, and if you trust each other then she probably was.

    My boyfriend was amazed it was so easy - he kept asking if I was SURE it was my first time. I was like...:chin: it's probably the sort of thing I would have noticed a guy doing to be honest...

    not sure about the infection thing, the only thing I know for sure is that you shouldn't vary from anal to normal without washing in between.

    Lol, yah I had to ask her a few time if we really had done anul and not just normal sex in a new position. It really blew my mind at how if all seemed to flow and she was lucky to have no soreness. I have always fantasized about it but read so many things that scared the hell out of me about it (like females being hurt and stuff) but it just really worked for us in that moment.
    long lost lady wrote: »
    the only thing I know for sure is that you shouldn't vary from anal to normal without washing in between.

    That is very good advise, as I am sure we never would have but I am not sure if I would have thought about that specifically.
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    **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    Hi ya, yes I agree, great advice from long lost lady. You might also find it helps to read TheSite.org's factsheet on anal play.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    first time a guy did it with me i almost cryed in pain haha
    and we used a bit of lube aswel but probably not enough.
    tried it a second time and same thing happened, i guess my arse was just not made for anal hehe
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    smitherzsmitherz Posts: 968 Part of The Mix Family
    playdead wrote: »
    first time a guy did it with me i almost cryed in pain haha
    and we used a bit of lube aswel but probably not enough.
    tried it a second time and same thing happened, i guess my arse was just not made for anal hehe

    Looks like your arse shall remain your exit :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i guess my arse was just not made for anal hehe

    i'm now kinda scared that mine was...:lol:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    First time I did it, the guy tried using spit as a lube. That proved to not work out so well. It hurt, a lot. But then I tried it again later on, and we used lube and it worked just fine. And yes, don't switch in between the vagina and the anus...not clean.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've never tried it. I know alot of guys who make a huge deal of it and want to try it but from a guys point of view, is it really that amazing?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    long lost lady wrote: »
    i'm now kinda scared that mine was...:lol:

    I've learnt mine actually is! but only with guys who have small dicks hehe so they are in an advantage sometimes! x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Janjan wrote: »
    I've never tried it. I know alot of guys who make a huge deal of it and want to try it but from a guys point of view, is it really that amazing?

    For those of us with an anal fetish....ohhhh yes! :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    anal sex is good. It didnt really hurt me for the first time because we also did it nice n slow....we did use lube tho. SO i wudnt worry that it didnt hurt her, thats a good thing, prob cos she was very relaxed :)

    I wud wear a condom when you do it next - im not sure but i wud assume it can lead to an infection for you. And definately wash between!!! ive been there and its rather uncomfortable!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MattLiverpool wrote: »
    When guys talk and joke with each other, if i'm honest, anal is just about dominating the girl, to say that the girl totally opened up to him and he had her an it was like "yea bitch!".

    I'd still have a good joke about it with friends if it was someone who i didn't love, in a harmless manner.

    I guess you have to judge if your man wants to do it for the right reasons.

    I disagree.

    Personally, I think due to the fact it is still 'taboo' amongst certain people, it holds that extra attraction. Also, you see the girls on the porno films really 'getting off' on it, so you wanna give it a go and see if your girl really gets off on it too...

    Guys do talk though, and *some* lads seem to have this as the first question they ask when they found out you've slept with somebody new...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh - and can one of the mods change the title so the spelling is correct? It's really quite annoying... :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what infection

    hello

    several have mentioned that you should wash between anul and vaginal sex.

    What type of infection can not doing that cause?? Would it affect the woman or man.

    anyone any experience of infections.

    the reason I ask is I am trying to solve my irritating pee tube that I have posted about earlier.......

    many thanks
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