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When you get completely wasted and make a fool of yourself how do you get over it?
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On Friday I went to my friends' house for dinner, drank way too much and it was really bad. For one thing I vomited loads, on their clean laundry, sofa, carpet, bedding, the white cushions, all over myself and well it was just everywhere. Also, I told them about a dream I'd had the night before in which they'd sexually abused me (I have weird dreams a lot but I would never tell the people in them usually) and told them a few scary things about my past which I'm really ashamed of and never tell anyone, basically involving some extreme sexual violence I experienced when I was younger. I'm so gutted it came out when I was drunk. I've been keeping it secret for years. When I woke up (at theirs) I was still wasted, their house was locked (as it was night time) but I thought they had "locked me in" and were keeping me there against my will and I was trying to get out of their first floor windows to "escape" although luckily I failed. I was hungover until Sunday but even now I just can't cope with this, I don't know what to say to them or how to be around them. They phoned me to check I got home okay and am okay on Saturday but I was still too hungover to talk properly. They didn't mind about all the vomit, they just seemed concerned about me. I feel so ashamed, it's having a really negative effect on my mental health (I'd gone about ten days with only very mild suicidal ideation, now it's starting to dominate my thoughts again).
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I don't know about everyone else, but that sounds to me like friends who care about you. You made a bit of a tit of yourself i.e. the vomitting and you revealed some nastiness about your past, which may take them some time to digest, but they obviously care enough about you to make sure you're ok.
Yeah you're gonna feel a bit crap about it for a while, i would, but it'll pass. I've done stupid things in the past and felt mortified for days, but you'll get over it. You're obviously still speaking so why not call 'em up now you've sobbered up and apologise for what happened.
They do a lot more occassion cards now but i doubt there's a 'sorry for vomitting on your laundry' card
ETA PLUS you now have a 'funny story' to tell ya grandkids
Hey Randomgirl, it sounds like you had a pretty full-on night and it's natural to feel embarrassed about it, but hey it really does happen to the best of us!
It's definitely not something to feel ashamed about (although I realise that's hard to come to terms with.) The main thing to remember is that you didn't do any harm to anyone, you just made a bit of a mess. How about inviting those same friends out for a low-key night out - maybe a quiet meal or something? It will probably be good to see them sooner rather than later so you can feel comfortable with them again. They sound like lovely people.
Let us know how you get on
Don't be so hard on yourself - your friends sound like good people. Just see them again soon and you'll be fine. And like someone else said, now they know something, they might even be good people to talk to about your past. Worst thing you can do is get all scared and avoid them. Just try to let it go, we all make mistakes...
I like Helens suggestion, quiet meal, and may be a box of chocolates to apologise for the mess.
It's one of the things about good friends, you can do things like that and it really doens't matter.
Probably one of the most embarrassing things ive done was to sit in a pub all day from around 1pm solidly drinking until about 3am at which time i decided it would be a good idea to get a taxi to my (recently broke up with at the time) ex gf's house.
I've probably done worse things that my brain has blocked out though. Dont worry about it x
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Since I've stopped doing so many drugs I've been drinkign every weekend instead, and I can't handle my drink. I can drink lots of it, but I behave like an absolute twat.
I wake up in the morning and as things slowly come back to me I feel worse and worse.
Take the piss out of yourself with you mates and laugh it off as Scotey says.
I'm going away with them at the weekend (which was already booked), it was meant to be for a bit of a piss up but I think that won't happen now for obvious reasons. I think we'll stick to Earl Grey.
One of them wrote on my facebook wall about my new photos being nice which was nice of her as I didn't think she'd want anything to do with me now.
I'll take (the girl one) some flowers when I go there next (which will be this week sometime).
This is the impression I get as well. And they didn't seem to bothered - I think they were more concerned about how you were than you vomiting everywhere.
They are really good friends and wouldn't ever tell anyone else, they aren't like that. It was mostly one of the guys I was talking to more than the girl but he's like really safe. I know it won't go any further than him (unless the other two heard but as far as I know it was him I was talking to until late, the other two had gone to bed but then he went to wake them when I was being sick as he wanted their help so hopefully they didn't hear it but I can't remember any of that).
I will offer to pay for the cleaning stuff but I doubt they'll accept my money.
Maybe this is making me realise how good my friends are.
Been their an done it mate. Everyone who drinks has, I'm sure. It takes a few weeks, months to get over, and it may pop into your head from time to time, but you'll get over it. Alcohol does that to you. Learn from it! I did. :thumb:
I've been sick a couple of times due to alcohol before, once when I was fifteen and once when I was eighteen but nothing like this. It's less the vomit and more what I told them that bothers me. I might stop drinking again.
But if you hadn't drunk in the first place you wouldn't have said what you said. Being drunk at the time has everything to do with it, anything else is just part of it, like the vomit is. Thats how other people see it, trust. People will know you were drunk, not that you were bringing up funny stuff about your past. You were pissed! Next week/month you'll be on the piss again, then perhaps you'll have better conciseness about how to deal with it. Its a learning process, one that never stops, I've found.
I''m pretty drunk myself atm. I talk alot of crap when I'm drunk an all look
I felt like shit the next day, and for the next few weeks, out of total shame, embarassment. I couldnt remember any of it, but I got told alot of what happened. Lets just say. I've stayed away from vodka and sprits from then, an that was 2-3 years ago now. Not touched a drop!
all you can do is laugh it off, you're still gonna cringe every time you think about it for the next while probably, but it happens to everyone!
Me too
Indeed
Cringe! Thats the word!
I've just thought about that night again. Cringe!!! :shocking:
We all do silly things when we're drunk. You might be mortified for a few days but most people can move on quite quickly.