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Houseguests from hell
**helen**
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Our latest ranter has got a bee in her bonnet about ungrateful guests. I actually love having friends to stay for the weekend and don't expect them to pay for anything. But hey ho, we all have different expectations don't we! Read about Stephanies hellish experience here: http://www.thesite.org/community/reallife/rants/ungratefulguests 
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It tends to balance out if you stay at each others houses every now and then.
Or they could have just eaten out, and then wouldn't have had to worry about paying.
I'd also plan stuff to do, if they didn't know the town/city I lived, I would like to show them the best bits.
Also, wouldn't you just wash up after they had gone?
ah I dunno. I only tend to have one person over at a time, lots of people messing my place up probably would annoy me.
Obnoxious, self absorbed tit.
You had a couple of friends over, how the <random profanity> can you consider that to be "great responsibility"? :banghead: I'm actually feeling angry you consider a fucking dinner party a sign of "great responsibility", damn it wasn't even a dinner party, just a couple of buddys stopping over.
Granted they appeared a little unpolite, but when with friends, people you are comfortable around do you feel the need to endlessly say "Thank you, ever so much" at ever turn?
If I have mates to stay from uni I expect to entertain them, I'd offer some suggestions for what to do while they were there, I'd expect to cook, I'd expect to clean up and wash up and if it had been a late night and I was still asleep when they were ready to go I'd be more than happy for them to leave me sleeping.
Yeah it's nice if people muck in, but I don't expect it if I've invited them to visit, especially if they've travelled to get there, I usually take that as their contribution to the weekend.
I don't see what the big deal with that is- unless maybe the girl who wrote the article is annoyed because she feels like her friends wouldn't do the same for her as she did for them if she went to stay at their gaff.
Oh i couldn't agree more but with added profanities
I mean come on they're guests FFS. You don't expect them to help out or pay, well at least i don't. You don't say 'Oooo do you fancy coming over for the weekend ? and by the way you'll have to chip in for the food and help clear up' :rolleyes:
Anyway, from reading it, it wasn't a rant about houseguests it was a rant about having stupid pricks as friends so more fool her if she keeps them.
Granted about paying, you shouldnt expect it, but you should always offer just from being polite.
However, if you are going to invite guests to stay, then you should be hospitable, and therefore not expect them to do dishes etc.
Indeed. When I've stayed over my friend's house, he would've cooked breakfast and stuff and we'd end up helping him tidy up. (because both times I've stayed over, we've had a party) However, he didn't actually ask us to do so.
The fact that she can't wait to exact her 'revenge' just shows that she's pretty bitter, immature and rather unpleasant. Build a bridge and get over it.
If there's a lesson to be learned, its only ever invite good friends to stay. I don't mind subsidising my friends who have no money, because we have money, but I'd be pissed off if it was all take and no give on their part. Not everything has a monetary value, and they do sound like ungrateful sods.
Actually no, I don't have shit friends like that so it's fine.
she obviously doesnt know the meaning of the words "guest" "host" but more importantly "mates"
:yes: Asking them to pay is out of order, IMO.
Oh and vomit in the sink is a cunt, happened a few times in our gaff last year and it's not pleasant to look at or clean.
Right, now fess up. Who wrote it?!:p
I was thinking that...I dont recognice the pic
and how could they have left without saying bye? i mean... everoyne just got up and walked out in silence? the borin cunt probably just added it in to make her story sound 'better'!
I don't think its a case of expecting them to pay, and her house guests do sound extraordinarily presumptive and very very rude, to be quite honest.
It's not that I'd expect guests to get down on bended knee and kiss my feet (though I'm all ears if they want to), but a thank you might be nice. And it's not like I expect them to come bearing more gifts than the Three Wise Men, but a bottle of Bulgarian plonk and some Twiglets wouldn't go amiss.
Sounds like these "friends" were rather more take than give, and this girl really does have a point. If she was whingeing about her friends always ducking their round at the pub she wouldn't be getting slagged off, and its exactly the same principle.
Also most people I can think of would have done the shopping in advance rather then planned to make use of their guest's car.
Seem to be fault on both side really.