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I'm going up to Manchester in a couple of weeks to stay with the boy. Now I've been to stay with him a few time while he was at uni and obviously that's not a problem, me and him, one bed, all lovely and snuggly.
Catch is now he's back at home. I've never met his parents, ever. I've spoken to his mum, once for about 10 seconds when he wanted me to say hi to her on the phone. He seems to think us sharing a bed at his isn't likely to go down to well, which I have no problem with, if he came here I doubt it would either.
However, his current plan is that the story goes that I'm sleeping on the floor in his room, which will keep everyone happy, and if I end up in his bed for a 'cuddle' so be it.
To my mind this is a rubbish plan, and I doubt for a second anyone is going to believe it. I also don't want to give his parents a bad impression.
Any thoughts?
Catch is now he's back at home. I've never met his parents, ever. I've spoken to his mum, once for about 10 seconds when he wanted me to say hi to her on the phone. He seems to think us sharing a bed at his isn't likely to go down to well, which I have no problem with, if he came here I doubt it would either.
However, his current plan is that the story goes that I'm sleeping on the floor in his room, which will keep everyone happy, and if I end up in his bed for a 'cuddle' so be it.
To my mind this is a rubbish plan, and I doubt for a second anyone is going to believe it. I also don't want to give his parents a bad impression.
Any thoughts?
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I'm actually quite happy on the floor all night. If I'd ever met his parents this would be so much easier :banghead: Sleeping arrangements have never ever bothered me before, I've slept in tents, marquees, fields, halls, beds with people I've never met, kitchen floors, living room floors, bedroom floors. Most of those through Scout stuff or uni sports competitions. It's just trying to work out what the reasonable thing to do is....
sorry for the mini hyjack
When I was living at home the rule was that boyfriends slept in the spare room... I could stay in the room until as late as I want and go back in as early as I liked but I was not allowed to sleep in the room - now... thinking about this logically - not a lot happens when your asleep :rolleyes:
Saying that, we did have a no sex rule that my brother educated me on one day when he deemed me old enough - I was a good girl with that
I stayed over at my parents house a couple of years ago with my boyfriend (now husband) who I was already living with at the time and there was a big hooha over getting permission to sleep in the same room! Apparently my parents were worried about my Grandma's reaction (who lived with them) - when asked she was dumbfounded at why they were even questioning it... no problem with her at all - parents are lovely but strange beings
I do know what you mean- I've never had an issue with it from the age of 16 really. How old are you and your other half, scary?
Whenever I have anyone to stay; girl mates, guy mates, boyfriends, at home the standard expectation is that they sleep in the spare room, there are proper bunk beds in there and it's next door to my room. That's the way things have always been and I'm happy with that. Tend to spend most of the evening in my room and go our seperate ways to sleep.
Very similar arrangement to Splodgey really.
I'd leave him to sort it out with his parents but I suspect he's going to put this daft plan to them. I'm not the most honest person in the world, but would feel a bit bad being in on blatant lies.
I suspect if you asked them they wouldn't know either, just comes down to them being more comfortable with them not.
I agree, at the end of the day it IS their house and they shouldnt be made to feel uncomfortable in their own home. My parents let my last boyfriend sleep in my room but the first time he stayed he slept on my floor and they didnt make the decision lightly, if i had a different boyfriend every month they wouldnt be allowed to sleep in my room.
I can understand how some parents would be a bit funny, their kids are still their little babies in their eyes, and although they have possibly come to terms with the fact they may no longer be a virgin, its a case, "well it wont happen under my roof!"
Having said that, me and the fella share a bed, and always have done. I never gave my Dad a chance to say otherwise
I can see if someone's under 18, but I think you should be able to sleep in the same room.
Hah my exes parents had that rule when i was like 15. He used to stay in his bed till like 3, go to sleep in the other room then come back at like 6. Was so pointless!
And I seriously doubt they'll be coming in to check up on you....