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Standing a girl up...
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Can anyone on here explain to me how its possible for a guy to be really interested in a girl one day then quite happily stand her up 4 their first date the nest day? Because i'm really not overly sure what i did wrong : O( cass xx :crying:
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Maybe he got scared and thought you wouldn't show so did the same thing?!
Well has he ruled out seeing you again? What sort of vibes you sending out cos its hard for us blokes to know where we stand.
If you still like this chap why not try sort something low key out, maybe meet up with few of your mates and his, so that if he does bottle it again you wont be left on your own!
We've been texting on and off since then last week we were meant to meet up with my mates and his. just keeping it casual. but then my fone broke and my friend got caught out being underage in the club we were meant to be meeting in and i had no way of contacting him. Although to be fair he was supposed to ring me once he was in there so we could meet up, which he didnt as by that time i had my sim in a friends fone i just didnt have his number.
Soooooo on wed i got a message saying hello, and basically i was like um whose this and he then(didnt actually kno it was him) text back saying i love you. SO obviously i just asumed it was one of my mates pratting about knowing i had no numbers. Then he text me again saying do you love me and then some other generally weird stuff. Finally i got it out of him that it was him and we started txting each other like we had before. I just put the weird messages down to drunkeness or something then at 3 o clock in the morning thurs nite/fri morn he asked me to go meet him . Which after ALOT of umming and ahhing i did. We got on really well and he asked me out for last nite. So we carried on txting on fri and he was really REALLY keen, and was equally keen back, flirty but not desperate, then yest i txt him asking what time he was picking me up, like he said he was going to. And he didnt txt back. so as i'm a bit simple i got ready and everything, thinking maybe he was workin late or that his phone mite be playing up, but in the end he just didnt show. I tried ringing him a couple of times and he turned his phone off.
SO in the end i went round to my mates house and my 2 best friends got hold off his number and basically went a bit mad at him . Which yes i know was really not the best idea and no i'm not a pysco bunny boiler, but in the end he txt me saying that he hadnt got back to stafford till late. but he would take me out another time if really wanted. v patronisingly. so my mates just took that as a green light to give a fair bit of abuse.
So i've well and truly blown it there. I dont need telling that i shouldnt have let my mates go at him like that but i was upset and i've been messed around ALOT in the past and that is the first time i've ever actually stood up 4 myself/ let someone stand up for me. ALl i wanna kno is where exactly did i go wrong so that he went from flirting with me and making plans for our date to basically ignoring me and then patronising me. cass :O( xx
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We are sorry hun.
No point me giving advice, I think you know what I think by now.
lol not only did that make me feel rather crap but u insulted my paragraphing aswel!!! lol made me laugh tho...
Good god woman ! I'm not complaing u n kirst made me feel 4000 times better than should have been possible. N i love ya both v much 4 it. xx
Just i know that if ive come out of a club at the end of the night pissed up and start chatting some girls up its not generally because i'm looking for someone to date you know what i mean
Knew I liked you
You don't know fuck all about this guy so maybe he's got a gf and just wanted to have little fun with you. Its hard trying to 2nd guess people's actions, best not to think about it anymore as you'll only think the worse and feel about yourself. Don't punish yourself for he's fuck up. He's the one that'll miss out!
Least you wont have to worry about him fucking you about again. You've had a lucky escape if you ask me hun!
As for you liking me...
WOW, its like reading the Telegraph!
Sorry
Lol exactly. I text my friend on wednesday night saying what a freak he was!!!! Then somehow i managed to convince myself it was just me being overly critical again. I am very good at convincing myself to believe the best in people Neway guys. Thanks for all your help and words of comfort but i'm very much over it now!! xx