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Never seeing people again
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I feel a bit strange really, I've broken up from college and I've only got a couple of exams left.
It's wierd because obviously I'll stay in contact with my good mates from college... but some of the people that I've never been good enough mates with to hang out with outside of college, but who I still got on really well with in college, well I'll probably never seem them again which is a shame, espescially as some of them are girls who I've always kind of liked but never done anything about it.
Hmm, anyone else been in this situation?
It's wierd because obviously I'll stay in contact with my good mates from college... but some of the people that I've never been good enough mates with to hang out with outside of college, but who I still got on really well with in college, well I'll probably never seem them again which is a shame, espescially as some of them are girls who I've always kind of liked but never done anything about it.
Hmm, anyone else been in this situation?
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Yeah totally, I had it last year when I left my old college/school but I still see alot of them at parties and stuff, it's just this new college that I've come to, alot of them live quite far away and have totally differtent circles of friends.
One of my old best mates and me used to have such a good time and at the start of last summer we were really close but within the space of a few weeks of me not hanging around her the longer we left it the harder it was to actually meet up.
Now except for the drunken text i sent her in the early hours of saturday morning to tell her i'd seen this guy we knew i hadn't spoken to her in weeks ! bit shit really
Yeah it sucks, some of my best mates who I've been mates with since I was like 4 years old, I stopped talking to them for about a year and it was well awkward like seeing them in town and stuff, I felt like a right dick and then I plucked up the courage to invite them to this party I was going to and now we're all good mates again.
Ah that was good of you to do that. Yeah i fuckin hate it being all awkward though. My mate that I mentioned I did text her when me and another friend were out in bar a few weeks ago and she came out and we all had a really good night and it was like we were back to normal but it always seems like i was the one making the effort so i've just left it now.
Aww, maybe she just felt really awkward too. Keep making the effort and she will eventually. It'll be worth it.
You'll be surprised how much you'll still see and stay in contact with old mates. I've found loads of old mates on Facebook which is pretty cool, not that i'm fussed about seeing them as much, but still nice to keep in touch.
Facebook is the way forwards :yes:
I keep in touch with pretty much no-one from school/sixth form/college/old jobs. I can just find it fairly easily to walk away from people and dont be that bothered. I occasionly think about the odd person and miss them, but I never have any inclanation to get back in touch.
I know, that's pretty much what someone said to me yesterday.
Fucked up innit.
I feel like that too. It's not your best mates that you see at the weekends and stuff, it's just the random people you sit by in lessons or friends of friends, where you're only really mates in the context of college. I think it's going to be kinda difficult to keep those relationships going too, because it'll feel a bit awkward doing stuff outside of college with them, as you don't know them all that well. I'm going to miss seeing them everyday.
But I guess every gets to know new people like that at uni or work or whatever they do next. Still feels a bit sad though.
Do I miss them? No
I think what's worse though is the realisation that a friendship is coming to a close due to moving away etc and there is not that strength between the two people to continue that relationship.