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I have just being thinking, because a very close friend of mine is thinking about having her "first time" with her new boyfriend, did anyone else plan it out? Or did it just happen?
In my friends case, she is 18, all her friends have had sex but she hasnt and she wants to do it before she goes to university and since she has her first boyfriend now, she is debating getting him into bed. I wasnt so sure that was a good idea if it's her first time and she isn't in Love...
But then i remembered my first time and it was HORRIBLE! And i'm a guy...!
How does a guy have a bad time? Well... it was a date with a girl who, despite being hot, was not my sort of girl, so the sex was bad and awkward and i DEFINATELY should have waited until i had a more serious girlfriend to do it that i cared about.
Did anyone else regret their first time, like i do?
In my friends case, she is 18, all her friends have had sex but she hasnt and she wants to do it before she goes to university and since she has her first boyfriend now, she is debating getting him into bed. I wasnt so sure that was a good idea if it's her first time and she isn't in Love...
But then i remembered my first time and it was HORRIBLE! And i'm a guy...!
How does a guy have a bad time? Well... it was a date with a girl who, despite being hot, was not my sort of girl, so the sex was bad and awkward and i DEFINATELY should have waited until i had a more serious girlfriend to do it that i cared about.
Did anyone else regret their first time, like i do?
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My first time involved his pet dog licking my hand whilst my then boyfriend thrusted away with me laying there awkwardly and wondering how long it'd last, the shame.
God, I was such an awkward 17 year old. But I'm glad I was though, makes me appreciate getting shitfaced more now and just indulging in debauchery of the highest esteem. :razz:
Putting blood stained bedsheets into the washer afterwards kills the moment a bit.
I don't regret it at all, I was actually quite relieved for the whole losing my virginity thing to be over with. It was a little uncomfortable, but I was actually surprised by the fact that I wasn't in pain and the moment was nice enough. :thumb:
I was a very naive 13yo, (who hadn't even thought about how sex worked, let alone doing it) and basically let a guy get on top of me in a tent when we were half asleep kissing, he decided to go for it and I was ok with the fooling (which was crap anyway) before he dropped his pants and I had time to think ouch that really hurts, then it was over and I came to my senses. So yes, definately not a good experience.
The next time I had sex (over 2 years later) was a little more thought out, in that I'd been with a guy a couple of weeks and just knew I wanted to try it again, so we did. It wasn't like "I'll see you friday and we'll have sex", we just messed around and kept going, although first time was crap.
With my current boyfriend I guess it was planned, but only in the sense of I was going to sleep at his mates with him so it was like the first opportunity. Ended up sneaking back to his house and kicking his brother out. But that was pretty crap first time too.
anyway it was a summers night, i had a free house, coolio was playing in the background (fuck knows why, his choice must have been nervous) and we loved eachother
was still awkward and crap though
but i guess it was sweet .. bless him
It was my first girlfriend and a week into the relationship
Ingenious. Everyone should have one.
Sounds like you are easy to have
Fucking cunt :yeees:.
Oioi less of the cheek austrian boy :razz:
Oh my god, we had those too! Hehe, memories
My first time was planned... I was 15 with limited time alone with my boyfriend, so I wanted us to make sure we had enough time alone etc. I'm so glad it was with who it was with, but looking back, I was too young and probably should have waited.
I found a whole load of mine when I (well, we...Rich did most of it
Oh, I need to go and do that now. *grabs shag bands*.
Oh my god, yes!
I had loads though
I saw someone wearing some fairly recently and had to stop myself rushing over and shouting "oh my god, shag bands!!!" at them
That sounds almost identical to my first experience. Hey ho.
My second 'first' time, which is one i'd much rather remember, happened two years later and i don't regret and didn't plan. I was staying with my boyfriend at someone's house (i think their parents were away or he was house sitting or something) and we'd been 'fooling about' till about 5am in that way you do in the summer holidays when you're 15 and don't have work to go to... and it just felt right, we'd only been together for about 9 days (though i knew him quite well already) and it was really nice. Not mind blowing, not amazing sex, but it was nice and good that it was with him.
I wish that'd been my first. I think i might just write off my first first experience. Pretend it didn't happen.
The actual sex wasn't great, but it wasn't awful, either, which I think is the most you can hope for the first time!!