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    **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    Amira wrote: »

    So before you go and break up with him and go to the police on him, get the full story, talk to him about it and for gods sake let him wank in peace if it turns out to be legal type stuff. As kiezo said, you'll be alone a very long time if your looking for a bloke who doesnt watch porn.

    :yes: this article on porn in relationships is definitely worth a read. Take care.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    porn

    i really dont mind but some ppl see it as being unfaithfull god know why


    as long as kids dont get to see it thats ok

    caz n andi:thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    caznandi wrote: »
    as long as kids dont get to see it thats ok


    Yeah, much better that they stick to watching violence on the TV...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Man Of Kent wrote: »
    Yeah, much better that they stick to watching violence on the TV...

    :lol:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its not that he doesn't appreciate your body - he probably loves you a lot but the thing is men love sex. Its like a drug to them. I've had the same problem - at first I was a bit annoyed about it, but it didn't seem to be doing anything to ruin our relationship. I did talk to him about it, and he was honest. I think you should tell him, since he said that his brother downloaded it, that you're not going to get angry with him; that you just want to talk.

    It shows right there that he still loves you - that he makes an excuse :]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    rosellegreywood wrote: »
    Its not that he doesn't appreciate your body - he probably loves you a lot but the thing is men love sex. Its like a drug to them. I've had the same problem - at first I was a bit annoyed about it, but it didn't seem to be doing anything to ruin our relationship. I did talk to him about it, and he was honest. I think you should tell him, since he said that his brother downloaded it, that you're not going to get angry with him; that you just want to talk.

    It shows right there that he still loves you - that he makes an excuse :]

    I think you have to be 100% sure it was dodgy porn before you shop him. However, he sounds to be acting a bit too sus about it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i really don't understand why people get so worked up about their guys looking at porn. it's just something guys do and, as someone said, on the pc file names are all over the place anyway.



    unless it's real child/rape stuff, you really have to learn to laugh about it. and really, if you look, it's all kinda hilarious. why not ask him to show you the kind of thing he likes?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    crystalx2 wrote: »
    im 18, my problem with it is that i wasn't "normal porn" the videos had 'preteen' and 'raped', and as someone who has been raped, and whose boyfriend goes on to watch people getting raped for pleasure it is pretty disturbing,

    A lot of sites seem to boast that they offer pre-teen and rape sex but I am sure it is often an advertising gimmick. If it really is pre-teen stuff, then talk to him about it and that if he doesn't find help, you will shop him. He may not be a true paedophile but he needs to know that his actions are not acceptable.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wouldn't worry about it. Guys watch porn, it's nothing to worry about, and it most likely means absolutely nothing about the status of your relationship, as I watched porn in the best and worst of times of my previous relationship. In fact, I would argue that watching all of that porn made me much more prepared for sex when the time came. Anyway...

    As for the rape/preteen thing, I wouldn't believe what it said. I can tell you from experience that the title of a web page/video means absolutely nothing, and he was probably...err..."looking" for something else and that was just coincidentally the name of the page.

    Don't break up over a guy because of porn. It would be like a guy breaking up with a girl because there were pictures of some hot movie star guy on her computer.
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