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Do you think that you're quite judgemental?
I was having a conversation with someone today after watching Wife Swap and the jist was that I wouldn't judge a person because of their accent or what background they've come from but when the fufill all the stereotypical criteria for a certain kind of person (in this instance chavs) it does make me laugh.
Also after the conversation I've found myself feeling quite bad. For a while I volunteered at a community centre and as a result got to meet people quite high up in the council. The community centre itself is bustling with new ideas about making the area a better place to live and blah blah blah. My friend who works there is so so talented. He's practically completely self taught (best kind really) and his brain always seems to be buzzing with ideas.
He comes into work pretty unshaven and wears charity shop gear and elastic bands on his wrist and is uhh pretty eccentric. The cliche student look I guess and I can see people's faces when he meets them. There's this one particular suit from the Council and you can just tell that he is pretty vacuous. He's sitting there in a meeting with my friend who has so many ideas yet is so disorganised he jots them in pencil on a napkin and this Suit is just slowly moving away from him. You can tell the Suit is intimidated.
Ahh I don't know. I'm going off on my point..if I even have one. Basically this suit who is pretty high up in the council and gets paid a ton yet is so dim it's untrue and my friend who is donned in charity shop gear throwing ideas and thoughts everywhere. Sometimes it just seems unfair. Even if he does prefer charity shop gear.
Then you get the youth workers at the centre who have BEEN THERE AND DUN IT ALL therefore can relate to young folk better. I've been to youth programmes..one in particular this Americano type course called 'STEP 4WARD' (I bet every teen out there appreciated the 4 in the word foward..NOT) Anyway the course was run by a woman who wanted to let us all know that she could relate because of her rough childhood. Take away all this pseudo-bonding 'HEY IM DYSLEXIC TOO' bollocks and she was pretty shit at her job.
I've become seriously pessimistic of late and obsessed with the word cliche.
Someone tell me I'm not going through a phase or am a cold hearted human being plz?
I was having a conversation with someone today after watching Wife Swap and the jist was that I wouldn't judge a person because of their accent or what background they've come from but when the fufill all the stereotypical criteria for a certain kind of person (in this instance chavs) it does make me laugh.
Also after the conversation I've found myself feeling quite bad. For a while I volunteered at a community centre and as a result got to meet people quite high up in the council. The community centre itself is bustling with new ideas about making the area a better place to live and blah blah blah. My friend who works there is so so talented. He's practically completely self taught (best kind really) and his brain always seems to be buzzing with ideas.
He comes into work pretty unshaven and wears charity shop gear and elastic bands on his wrist and is uhh pretty eccentric. The cliche student look I guess and I can see people's faces when he meets them. There's this one particular suit from the Council and you can just tell that he is pretty vacuous. He's sitting there in a meeting with my friend who has so many ideas yet is so disorganised he jots them in pencil on a napkin and this Suit is just slowly moving away from him. You can tell the Suit is intimidated.
Ahh I don't know. I'm going off on my point..if I even have one. Basically this suit who is pretty high up in the council and gets paid a ton yet is so dim it's untrue and my friend who is donned in charity shop gear throwing ideas and thoughts everywhere. Sometimes it just seems unfair. Even if he does prefer charity shop gear.
Then you get the youth workers at the centre who have BEEN THERE AND DUN IT ALL therefore can relate to young folk better. I've been to youth programmes..one in particular this Americano type course called 'STEP 4WARD' (I bet every teen out there appreciated the 4 in the word foward..NOT) Anyway the course was run by a woman who wanted to let us all know that she could relate because of her rough childhood. Take away all this pseudo-bonding 'HEY IM DYSLEXIC TOO' bollocks and she was pretty shit at her job.
I've become seriously pessimistic of late and obsessed with the word cliche.
Someone tell me I'm not going through a phase or am a cold hearted human being plz?
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Wow how astute are you??
Of course.
There's a girl I used to work with who kept on about how pretty she was, and how confident she was and how all the blokes looked at her. I find people like that vile, so I was quite stand offish with her and didn't speak to her unless I had to. One drunken night out she told everybody that she was really insecure, and she said stuff like that to try and justify it to herself. From then on we were good pals, which is a fine example of why you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover. I still do it though
People I know think I'm a bit silly, immature and not massively intelligent. Not really bothered, but everybody judges people so w00t w00t.
People that know me but who aren't close friends of mine, see me as a 'druggy' who doesn't really give a fuck about his future or achieving any happiness in life except for getting high. lol I couldn't give a shit though because I know who I am better than anyone else.
I don't know.
Say you were a social worker, wouldn't that get in the way of your job? It seems to me that people in our local council smile and say they want to help on the surface but you can imagine when a 'chav' mum has gone away they either think or say neg stuff about em.
I am a judgmental person - you gotta have standards...
There are definitely some jobs that I simply couldn't do, because I'm judgmental of the people I'd come across. But I'm contented in the career I have chosen to enter and contented with the thought of the people I may meet.
It's human nature to judge.
I reckon I am quite judgemental but I keep it to myself. Everyone judges ... if you don't you are lying!
People are people, end of.
I think intelligence comes in many forms. Being clever isn't all down to achievments and qualifications. With you, maybe this is judgement but I don't think you're all that clever in people skills and that's just going from how you act online.
I of course have expectations and concernes too about people when I notice the first few things about them, but I usually don't deny anyone's chance to prove himself, if I do not have stalwart evidence that this person is [so and so].
Problem is tho, that I am a person who needs a reason and an explanation for everything, so I pidgeonhole people I cannot entierly grasp from time to time.
Hmm okay.
Matt that's cuz you are scientific!
But yeah, I judge people, like anyone else, but I enjoy trying to prove myself wrong too. Sometimes I do, and sometimes my first impressions were right.
That's a sad view to have. I don't know, how do you have friends? Are they the same as you?
I'm not that judgement, I'll talk to anyone and give them respect no matter what their background or image is. But if they start acting like a twat then I won't continue being nice to them.
I'm not saying I should be a member of MENSA, but I'm just appreciative of my intelligence, especially when I see programmes on telly like 'Marbella Belles'!!!!
Rachael, I note that you judge the councillors (or the suits) based on their appearance. You're clearly making judgements about them by commenting on what you assume they'll assume!!! Or something like that.
It's human nature, I'm afraid. I feel guilty about it sometimes but as long as you give people a chance, despite what your first impression is, I don't think that it matters.
that's actually pretty clever. come to think of it, a few of my friends were people I disliked at first. I wouldn't want to hang around with them, but as we've been together in the same class, worked in the same places etc I realized how valueable they now are.