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I don't want to sound like an attention seeker, but I cut. I've been doing it for a yr and half now, and I don't know what to do.
Am I even on the right msg board?
Anyway, I can't seem that it's hurting any1, except myself of course. But i've told like 4 friends and thats about it. I can control it so it's not a problem?
Anyone else with same problem please e mail as i'd like a different persons view, some one that understands?
Cheers
I don't want to sound like an attention seeker, but I cut. I've been doing it for a yr and half now, and I don't know what to do.
Am I even on the right msg board?
Anyway, I can't seem that it's hurting any1, except myself of course. But i've told like 4 friends and thats about it. I can control it so it's not a problem?
Anyone else with same problem please e mail as i'd like a different persons view, some one that understands?
Cheers
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Welcome to TheSite, make yourself at home. There are a lot of users here who have gone through similar experiences, and will be able to help and support you. I can promise you that nobody is going to call you an attention seeker, because you're doing the right thing here and asking for help.
We also have some information about self-harm in our Headstate section, here's a link for you to click on: http://www.thesite.org/health/headstate/self_harm.html
There are a couple of links at the bottom of that page that you might find useful too.
all the best
Karla
No offence but don't get on your high horse b4 u know what ur saying. I cut because it makes ME feel better. None of my family know, i don't think they even have a clue about it.
I started because it's a control method. Everything at the time seemed so fake, so pre-prepared like nothing really mattered, and this was a way of showing to my self my feelings. I could but, no one could or still can control that. It's why way of forgettingthings for a minute.I can't hit someone, so I cut.
I think your g/f did it 4 the wrong reasons.Some use it as a method of attention. Thats not why i do it.
do you do it when you are alone?
yes. only when i'm alone.
what started it off?
i answered that earlier. But i found out about it at that time.
can you talk to anyone about it?
not really.1 mate understands, but thats coz he does it too.
can you stop, or are you addicted?
i can control it at the moment i think.
Sorry if this come out nasty. I just had to se the record straight.
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
Many people who self-harm do so in private, and then cover up what they have done to themselves. It can be dangerous to label everyone who self-harms as an attention seeker. Why don't you have a look at our article too, and find out a bit more about some of the issues?
you say I dont understand, maybe not but I have seen the damge that cutting causes.
"The regularity of life seems to hard, and your family dont even bother to notice how you are."
"you use physical pain to relive the mental, which makes you feel worse because those who you want to take notice of you dont or dont seem too."
So you see I dont understand. but I do understand this it will become an addiction and it will get worse.
tace care not offence....
it may clear things up for u a bit. Oh by the way. I'm a bloke so it's the same for both sexes.
This may help you understand that not all people are doin it for the attention: http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
Ignore people that think its done for attention, those of us who have been through it ourselves know its not the case although it sometimes is. Ive come across a few people who I think do it for that reason, but u have to look at it like this...if they r going to such extreme lengths for attention that is a problem in itself. It is easy to blame things people do to themselves on wanting attention...it kind of takes away the fact there may be something serious underneath it all and I guess it makes it kind of easier to deal with.
Anyway I hope u realise that u can come on here for advice and support anytime u need it <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
"Cough up the rent, Mr Kent
And don't go blame it on the government"
i dont know early manics very well...
I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
~ the late, great Douglas Adams
um I have a friend that cuts well had when she first told me i didn't understand it but it didn't seem to be such a big deal and it made her feel better so i let it go
but the cut slowly started getting very bad and i started worrying about her alot i made her promise me to stop ofcourse i thought i check her wrist every week and saw no marks he didn't but he hadn't stop she was making the cuts were i couldn't see them i found out he was still cutting a few months later a cut (deep) in his thigh
I told him i could watch her hurt herself anymore it was killing me so either i told him either he tells her mother and gets help or he stops being my friend that was 2 and a half years ago last i heard she tried to kill himself i don't know if i did the right thing tho maybe i could have helped her
I know I'm not perfect but I can smile
I don't profess to be an expert, and I have now been to the site Karla mentioned and I think it summed up what I thought.
Dude, you need help. Now.
I'm not suggesting that you are unstable or anything but you obviously have issues, and you need to deal with them. This is a downwards spiral that you need to get off, while you can.
Ritchie was cool, but he is not a role model you should follow. Better you follow James or Nicky.
As for not hurting anyone. That's only because they don't know about it.....yet. Save your Mum the heartache and get help now.
"Cough up the rent, Mr Kent
And don't go blame it on the government"
Anyway,Kitty, maybe you should have stuck by him, he probably needed help....but it's difficult i know,coz unless you do it, it's hard to understand why ppl cut.
Lolly, i know there's other people, and thanx. Have u cut recently? It's difficult and i can't see it fully going away for many years.
That's my view. Thanks for your opinions. I spose it can lead to more serious problems but for now i know its under control.
WOW THAT SHUT YOU LOT UP DIDN'T IT???????
ANYONE STILL AROUND?
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
[This message has been edited by tourette (edited 09-06-2001).]
have u all gone now then?
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
Yes I have cut recently unfortunatly. I stoppped the whole time I was pregnant, I still had the urge but I guess I just didnt do it coz I knew I was looking after something else (I dunno!?). Ive been doing a lot of really difficult work with my psychologist which has brought up a lot of bad feelings and I know thats why Im doing it again. As much as I hate myself fopr going back to it!
U said that everyone gets the idea from somewhere, I dont entirely agree although I think thats usually the case. I started really young...cant remeber the age but I think around eight or nine!!! As far as I know I didnt get the idea from anything or anyone. Its funny coz whenevr I used to get mad as a child I would hurt myself in some form like biting and stuff...guess it was just inevitable that I would cut! Its different for everyone though and everyone does it for different reasons.
Your cycles have bled into ones supposed to be my own
I mean, I'm like a totally non-violent person so instead of taking it out on other people I kept it bottled up and took it out on myself...
Lolly. You're story proves one thing to me, it doesn't stop if u grow up, have a baby or relationship? that worries/comforts me at the same time. Soz to hear you've started again. I'll leave the psycologist till i get worse first though.
Justin....Good to here you've stopped.How long did u do it for?And you Amadee!!! how do u overcome the urge?
Congratulations on the baby? come on details.....
Thanks again.
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
so not everyone gets the idea from people such as richey edwards <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
~ the late, great Douglas Adams
Hope u understand?
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
When I was really depressed, though, I would do whatever it took to get myself in the mood to cut myself. I kept hurting myself more and more. I'd told everyone that I cut myself except my mother, eventually she found out and got me help. I was put on Zoloft for about 6 months. It didn't work at first and they had to keep upping the dosage, after the 3rd month they said if it didn't work soon I'd have to be hospitalized, but luckily it did work. After 3 more months I felt normal, so I went off the medication and I've been pretty much fine ever since.
Everyone's depression is different, for some people it's something that they have to deal with for the rest of their lives, for other people most of it goes away. I think I'll always have to deal with it to some extent but I don't want to kill myself anymore and I'm happy the vast majority of the time.
The extreme faction is closer than you thought.
xxx
U r making a mistake by leaving it till it gets worse...how worse exactly? Worse as in when u hit a vein or cut so deep u need stitches? There is never a right time to see someone about a problem, u will just come up with another excuse....please just get yourself some help, why wait till it gets worse when u can prevent it getting worse in the first place. U r very wrong in thinking that it dont get better when u r older or have a baby etc. The majority of people who I know that used to cuty have had help and no longer do it. The reason I still do is because I am a fucking idiot and never worked with the people who offered me help in the past. Ive spent my life running away from my shit by taking drugs, trying to kill myself and numerous other things. This is not the answer! The reason I still do it is because I have never had the strength to let people help me. Im trying to finally do it now, not for myself but for the sake of Liam coz I am a fuck up as a mother! Dont leave it untill u r older or have a child...do something now before U end up where I am...trying to sort out really difficult problems and having to bring up a child at the same time!!!!!
Lolly, don't be so hard on yourself. <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Anyway, Tourette, look your problems in the eye and go and get some professional help and support. Sooner rather than later.
You are NOT a fuck up as a mum. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Cheers for support, not that i have actually stopped, but thanks for listening!
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
Just ignore me Karla...I get like that at times but it passes lol! Thanx <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
You dont have to thank us for listening, thats why I come here mostly just to try an listen and help people out if I can!
Cutting is taken seriously here and u can get help but sometime u have to hunt around a bit to find the right people to suit u. Nobody will ever be able to help u untill u decide that u want it for yourself. At the end of the day it is only u that can make a difference. People can advice u and be there when things r really bad but nobody can actually stop u cutting...u r the only one who can do that. From what I gather u r not 100% wanting to stop cutting and I cant force u to get help but I can say that u will never want to stop it 100%. U just have to take note of your sensible side and ignore the side of u that likes what u r doing. The fact that u have come on here and expresed your feeling about cutting tells me that u dont really want to be doing it to yourself. I dont wanna sound mean here so please dont take what Im saying the wrong way...but u r not in control, although u may feel that way. If u r still cutting then there is still an issue and if u feel u cant stop yourself then u r definatly not in control of the situation. All I can hope is that u will get yourself some help because probably wont be able to do it by yourself. Although I do know people who have managed to stop without the help of anyone else. If there r other issues (which there usually is) underneath it all then they r what u need to sort out. The cutting isnt usually the problme, its usually a form of coping with another underlying problem...and thats what u need to get sorted in order to not cut. Please go to your GP and ask for some help or if u feel u cant do that call a helpline or anything, but get yourself some help please <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
"Pooh," said Rabit kindly, "you haven't any brain." "I know," said Pooh humbly.
Everyone cuts for different reasons, and it really isn't fair to lump people into one demographic.
tourette ~ I co-moderate a large self injury support forum, the link it in my signature. You are all always welcome to come there and just rant away... it's full of supportive, understanding people and is customised for the purpose.
~** Jess
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