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What would you class as cheating?
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Provided you're not in an open or poly relationship.
overly flirting with somebody
kissing sex and other sexual things
Of course
shit ! u alrite?
kissing, ooover touching, foreplay/sex ... i think flirting is fine, at least i hope it is or im in a bit of trouble
Flirting is fine, although I still got pissed off when my girlfriends flirted with other blokes, I didn't show it though cos I always did the same. lol
If yes, then it's probably cheating. However, someone who's completely shameless, it doesn't really hold true. But who would say to their partner 'yes last night went out was grinding up against this girl last night'. Cos although it's not 'cheating' in an obvious sense, obviously the fact you don't feel comfortable telling your partner is an indicator that you know you've done wrong.
Aw okay at least its all good now, I thought you meant it happened like last night ! A similar thing has happened to me and its pretty shit situation to be in.
But what if you don't want to tell your girlfriend because you know she's too sensetive/protective/obsessive/clingy e.t.c and will get really upset, rather than you actually doing something wrong?
totally agree
not only would it upset me, but i think "touching someone up" whilst you're in a relationship is disrespectful and unnecessary
:yes: I'm over sensitive like that. I don't mind flirting because I flirt with other boys myself without realising it.
However, touching in a way more than friendly, kissing and sex is a big no no for me.
One of my exes who cheated on me alot told me that he didn't think kissing other girls was cheating. He wouldn't have liked it if it was the other way round though. Infact, he had a horrible jealous side to him whenever a guy glanced at me!
you stay with him when you knew he thought this?
Intimacy doesnt just mean sex, Someone could cheat without ever even having kissed the other person in my opinion. In fact i could probably forgive a physical indiscretion easier than I could forgive my partner having an emotional relationship with someone else in a relationshippy kind of way.
I agree with you!
Would internet/msn/chatroom stuff be cheating?
then again i'm the biggest flirt i know, so i wouldn't listen to me!
Harmless flirting not classed if it doesn't mean anything.
Oftentimes the intentions say everything before the action has even taken place.
Chatlogs, texts, phonecalls to meet up and do the sexin' with someone else is already cheating behaviour for me. The intention is there and the person is not to be trusted anymore.
flirting is not cheating for me, because you can do it just for the jist, without any intention behind it (even tho it's not nice), but still...
Or should you feel guilty for thinking about having sex with other people?
I never used to feel guilty about it, but as i get older i start to wonder if it is ok to think about my female friends that way when i have a girlfriend.
No point feeling guilty about fantasing about sex with other people. Otherwise the whole of the male population would be queuing up at confession!
Everybdy does it - dont they lol?
"in every sexual encounter, there are 4 people present"
meaning the 2 having sex, and the two people they are thinking about.