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question for people who get extremely nervous during sexual activites
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whats the best way for your partner to help you to relax, so that you enjoy stuff more+just 'let go' of your inhibitions??? Is there anything that makes you more nervous, and anything that makes u just relax totally?
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I can't, I'm not, you just have to believe that it comes with time and experience.
You mean the old "it looked like E.T's finger" line?
I'll be honest, I almost always get quite shy and embarrased if I get intimate with somebody new. Once I get going I'm fine and there's probably no reason to be so timid, but I'm guessing it's a confidence and relaxation thing more than anything.
:yes: tis true.
You may find this article on sex with a new partner offers more wise words.
Have fun and take care
You probably need them ... oral sex while having a shit. Classy!
On a serious note to the OP, try and set aside enough time for your lovemaking. If you are trying to scramble out a quickie session in a short period of time because of location, parents, flatmates etc, then there is a lot of pressure on you to perform and you may not be able to relax (some people love this kind of pressure but many don't). Make sure you have enough time to just lie there and chat, caress, kiss etc ... so that the lovemaking becomes an end result of the mood rather than a hasty objective.