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A friends eating disorder - possibly
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My friend used to be bulimic a few uears ago. Over the past week shes been sayin how fat she is (shes a size 6/8)and how shes guna starve or go on a detox diet.
The thing is she wont eat in th e day but binges at night - i dont think she makes herself sick tho at the moment.
What can i do to help or do you think she has a problem?
The thing is she wont eat in th e day but binges at night - i dont think she makes herself sick tho at the moment.
What can i do to help or do you think she has a problem?
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How did your friend get over the bulimia last time, maybe you should avise her to go through the same process again. Or get ehr to see the school counsellor, the doctor, or someone similar, so that they can help her get over the self-esteem issues that surround bulimia. But most of all just be there for her.
Read the mental health magazine on TheSite too for some good advice <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
(do I get that comission money now Susie? <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)
my best mates mum (a nurse) has told us to avoid the subject and ignore her when she says shes fat because it just encourages her and its a form of attention seeking.i do beleive that in some way she is attetion seking and it does get annoying - shes not bulimic at the moment .
Attention seekers are as deserving of help as others with genuine problems, it still signifies serious self-esteem issues. Attention seeking is unhealthy, not something to hate people for.
Sadly, for people who hate themselves a lot, there is very little they can do to help. Im talking from experience, all you can really do is be there for them...it doesnt matter how often you tell a depressed person how wonderful they are, they still refuse to believe it. Maybe scaring them into seeing a doctor wouldnt be such a bad idea.
you cant do ne thing to stop her but if she knows that you are there to support her, she'll get herself out of it.eating disorders are based on depression-it's not about loosing weight or about wanting to not eat, it's about feelings and anxiety about yourself.
As i sed, my advice is to support her and let her know that you will always be there for her. wen u experience an eating disorder, you feel alone and you feel there's nobody who can help you so by knowing there's some1 there can mean an awful lot.
tell her to look after herslf and be her friend. you wont be able to convince her that she's not fat even tho she clearly isnt, if you want more inforamtion, try writing to the EDA (eating disorders asscociation) they are really useful.
hope that helps, i do know what you are going through.
love sazx
As you can tell, i do not encourage eating disorders in anyway, and i whole-heartedly wish that i could stop.
It took ages to get over it and i did it all on my own. It did come back tho. Recently. Im ok now (touch wood). Bulimia never goes totally i dont think, theres always the temptation to start again once u feel a bit fat.
Just be there for your friend. I would have loved to have had someone there for me who understood!
anway, i better stop waffling on. But anyone who reads this thinking bulimia is a great way to lose weight ' ITS NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!