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Right on.
People getting engaged with no intention of getting married is ridiculous, yes, but there's no evidence that that is the case or any need for all this venom. Married people have arguments too, and many of them need external help in dealing with the conflict. I think it shows resourcefulness seeking help if things have gone tits up, even if it is somewhere as simple as on a messageboard :thumb:
Listen up Squeal We're in love and have been4 the past 2 years we're stronger than ever! And its up to me and Richard when we finally tie the knot
AND we're NOT engaged coz we're tryin 2 make our relationship work! We want to make the wedding and our furture together our own we want it to be the most happiest day of our lives and to do that we wanna save up for the big day and our furture! I love him to pieces and he feels the same way! I was over the moon when he proposed to me i couldnt believe my eyes when he got down on one knee, we're soul mates !
And if u got any questions to ask then ask me?
I never said that you wasn't, i just said, why the rush when you're not planning to get married until another 5 years have passed?
How do your parents feel about all of this out of interest?
Our parents are happy for us both!
Don't about 50% (might be less but I can't remember) end in divorce anyway?
A friend got engaged at the age of 14, and was with the guy for 7 years until she broke up with him. Now she's with an even older guy with about 5 kids and they are engaged!
EVERYONE has arguments, married or not.
Having rows doesnt mean your relationship wont last.
Ok, it didn't help that the OP didn't give much input on what the argument was about in order to solve the problem, but it doesn't mean that you have to shout her down. Jeez.
Anyway, I agree with SCC. Everyone has arguments and I would think it rather strange if you and your fiance didn't. Hope you have sorted things out now
Glad everyone in real life isnt that kind!
Thanks ever so muc 4 that, thats exactly i was thinking when i was asking 4 advice i know i didnt rele explain myself but i didnt want all this!
And yeah we're sorted everything out thanks.
*sweet_cheeks*
Aside from everything else you REALLY REALLY need to stop typing like that, its actively making me hate you, sorry.
I cant even begin to understand how typing mi instead of me is any sort of an advantage.
Ah, in theory, yes, but I think things are a tad more complicated in practice for a lot of people...
Me and my boyfriend have just started seriously talking about engagement/marriage (after spending the last few years clothing any such conversations in the abstract). He wants to marry me, I want to marry him. Simple, non?
Myself, I'm not religious or fussed about having a huge ceremony, so a simple registry office affair with close friends and family would suit me wonderfully. I'm not even hugely keen on wearing a proper wedding dress, but I know my b/f's family would be pretty disappointed if we did it so low key. And then there's the whole dilemmas about who to invite - I have a fairly large family on my Dad's side and have been invited to all my cousins' weddings so far, so I think we'd put people's noses out of joint if we shut extended family out of the invite list. Then there's the needing to feed the guests and give them at least a couple of free drinks etc. etc. etc.
And that's before you even go into other issues, like we've been living together at his Mum's place for two and a half years and it would just be wierd - not to mention depressing - to get married and then STILL be living with th parents. Our first priority needs to be getting on the housing ladder. And, last but not least, our friendship group has been awash with weddings over the last couple of years, so we'd look like we're just jumping on the band-waggon.
So, yeah, a £100 wedding would be lovely, but impossible, and it looks like we're going to be 'engaged to be engaged' for a while yet. I know I'm going to get a proposal at some point in the next two years or so, but there's little point in broadcasting the fact yet to friends of family, when the actual date is some time in the unknown mists of the future! Talk about building up an anti-climax!
Sweet_Cheeks - I'm glad you've both sorted stuff out
Thanks Hun! Well Im happy for you!
Good Luck for the furture!
And make it a day to remember!
*Sweet_Cheeks*
With the caps lock on (that's why the first post has Every Letter Capitalised), and the lack of information, and the general immaturity of everything since means that I won't change what I said though:)
Glad to hear it
budda, there's no need to come into a thread just to insult someone for the way they type - a polite direction to the good manners guide wouldn't go amiss!
I can't believe how judgemental so many of you have been in this thread. *sweet_cheeks* I agree that your original post needed far more info to give a better response - but it certainly didn't deserve some of these responses :eek: Remember to keep the communication going, and don't less this put you off asking for advice again - hopefully the positives outweigh the negatives overall :thumb:
Thanks Helen i agree with what you say about so many people being negative to would what me and mi fiance want for our furture!
*Sweet_Cheeks*
Lol yeah you can stop banging on about it now.
:eek: Taking my name in vain!! Shock horror. :eek:
Ooer, just realised the potential misunderstanding in my last post....
When I described myself as 'engaged to be engaged', I must point out that I didn't mean I AM engaged at this point in time, more that we both know we want to get married, so I suppose it's a bit like being engaged without the ring or that I have received a proposal about a proposal, so to speak!
The reason we're not properly engaged right now is precisely because we have no way of estimating a date yet - we're probably looking at at least a couple of years away.
I'm not sure I was insulting, perhaps I could have been more diplomatic, but to be honest I'm somewhat surprised that she hasnt been given a warning.
However, having said that, I wish you all the happiness in the world in the future Sweet Cheeks, just please if you are going to continue to post type properly. Thanks.
See thats fine it would be stupid to get engaged without the prospect of marriage ever having been raised before and you had a good idea that its what both of you wanted.