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Guys - is what you say when you're drunk the truth??
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just wondering if the men on here say things that arent true when they are drunk? do you just say random crap, or just have more confidence to say the things you genuinley think/feel??
so....truth or lies?
so....truth or lies?
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Usually the truth. I don't generally say anything untruthful, even when sober.
I also won't lie if somebody asks my opinion, just to make them feel better. If they want to know what I think, I tell them.
Good to know you have such a high opinion on the whole of society
Depends. I personally thing I'm a superb liar be it sober or drunk.
I think blokes are more likely to lie if they're looking for a one-night-stand. With potential girlfriend material it's always gonna come back and bite you in the arse. I went on a holiday with all my female friends once, and it was amazing the number of "marines" we were approached by. In fact they're often surprised when they tell me something that some bloke has told them, and I just start laughing and say, "and you believed that?" I think people will often believe something that comes out of the mouth of someone they fancy, even if they know that the chances of it being true are pretty slim.
But yeah, if they're trying to pull you, then I'd say that you might get a few porkies by certain blokes. But if they're after actually getting to know you better, then the vast majority of blokes will only go as far as exaggerating a few things.
Then again, you're probably not going to find such a manual... And do you know why? Because every person is different! "Men" aren't a different species, so they'd be as likely as yourself or anyone else (man or woman) to lie or tell the truth.
To clarify: The above was not in an angry tone. Just a bit of "sweet sarcasm".
So pay heed.
sometimes you can confess your feelings or say stuf fu wann say when u had a few and other times, I gues sif they say something thats negative, they may not mean it u know?
Lots of people do a lot of bullshitting when they're drunk but they can also dish out some harsh truths that they would have kept to theirself had they been sober. Totally depends on the individual, the situation and the subject.
Now E's in their heydey, that's when everything came out.
When I'm drunk and feeling nopain, my feelings come out and I hold nothing back.
In that case there's no reason to assume he wasn't telling the truth. I suppose you might be inclined to think that if he was drunk and lavishing compliments on you that he was spinning you a big, fat one in order to get into your knickers. But really you should really give him the benefit of the doubt here, it's usually just that it's a lot easier to tell someone you find them attractive etc when you've got a few down the hatch.
He's probably just shy when sober and in the company of someone he doesn't know well (and seemingly is very attracted to!), fairly normal I'd say. Try not to spend too much time analysing these things, not at this early stage anyway - go on your date, enjoy yourself and take it all as it comes. Have a fab time
I do like him though, not just for sex, so im going to just try to have fun on the date+hope he wants to see me again.
i analyse too much though+it depresses me
As for drunken guys, being a guy, I can tell you that you shouldn't believe a word a guy says when he is wasted for a number of reasons.
1) the words might not come out coherently and the mumbo jumbo he just said might mean something to him but to you it will be exactly mumbo jumbo and you might misunderstand
2) they say a drunk will say what a sober can't, but that's not true, what will come out is a version of the truth..
3) yes he might be shy, but you can see if he is or not...people can be shy when they are drunk too
4) there is the over analysing hole a lot of women (in your case) fall into
and the magic 5) He might not remember complimenting you, therefore for him not complimenting you is normal behaviour
and lost+confused, it sounds like he's just shy.
I think the fact of if what is being said or not depends on the mood of the person before they get drunk. I know if i get drunk then i am 64 times more likely to say somthing that i am thinking that i would not say sober. It could be good or it could be bad but its whats being thought. (The booze seems to strip away the idea of 'thinking before you talk'). I just always check the company i keep before i think there is any chance of me getting drunk, that is not that often.
generally speaking, beer is truth serum for me. well, not so much 'truth', cos i usually say what i mean anyway.
but it makes me say things i had thought about recently. i wake up some mornings and think "why did i say that last night!? should have kept that to myself....". most of the time though, everyone else is equally drunk and won't remember/care whats been said.
i would say a few pints give me the bottle to say things i would normally not say. when im really battered though, i chat absolute codshit.