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What is Happiness?
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Many people believe that the most important reason to live is to be happy. However, happiness differs among everybody, as different things make different people happy. So my question to you is what makes you happy? How can happiness be achieved? Are you happy? (please be as thorough in your explanation as you'd like).
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Damn you, you beat me. I used to have that as my signature, it's so true.
I'm so original.
To describe it in a broad sense, happiness is achieving what you set out to achieve, whether in life as a whole or at any given moment.
I have days when im happy, but i think im kind of waiting to be happy with my life in general. Not just the odd day.
I really admire people who are totally happy, i know how hard happiness is to find, so if your happy then you have my respect.
:thumb:
now get on msn
Ah sorry, just about to head to the pub. I'll probably be on later, pissed and talking shite, nothing new there then.
A lot of things... Animals, children, meeting new people, working on different projects, the hope that I might one day be able to make positive changes to the world.
I'm happiest when I'm around the people I love and I have some wonderful friendships with my 'brothers' and 'sisters'. It feels just great cuddling up to a friend or when somebody says "I love you".
I love the sense of freedom I get sometimes, catching a nice sunset over the Thames, finding a piece of music which makes you purr or just watching people evolve and become more beautiful through their experiences. There are so many reasons to be happy in the world.
How can happiness be achieved?
I've lived an amazing life, by which I mean that I have learnt from a lot that's happened to me. Anybody who was around on thesite back in 2000 would know that I was a cutter, I abused solvents, I smoked pot heavily and drank way too much. I think this was because of a lot of things that happened in the past... Although I feel that apart from certain issues with my father, I have recovered.
If I could say anything to my bullies I would thank them. They taught me a lot about compassion and not judging people and through these lessons I feel I've learnt a lot. Knowing what it's like to feel small kind of acts like a weight to balance me so I don't get too big for my boots. I have also learnt what to say when people are sad because I try to treat people with the same gentleness as my saviours put upon me.
In essence, I think that happiness comes from reflecting upon your own suffering and experiences and seeing what they have taught you.
Are you happy?
I do not believe that anybody is completely happy, I don't think there is an absolute state of joy and that we all have skeletons in our closets. If we did not feel guilt, sadness or anger then how would we know how to handle people who feel the same? Would we get as much done? Would we ever appologise or feel sympathy or empathy for people?
For me, I have already said that my father is an issue, but I'm glad that it's an issue, I'm glad I still have battles to fight because one day I know I will come out better for it. I can be irritable and misandristic at times and boy do I have a huge axe to grind with the way the world works...
But then I am yet to meet a human being who does not feel they have an improvement to make about their being. We will spend our whole lives looking to make ourselves a better person and I don't know if anybody will ever feel that their lives or themselves are perfect. If we all saw perfection in the world there would be a lot more injustice.
Finally, a wonderful quote somebody sent me:
"The question is not why are you so infrequently the person you really want to be. The question is why do you so infrequently want to be the person you really are."
Oriah Mountain Dreamer