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Working and depression
BillieTheBot
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I have a slight dilemma:
On Monday I got told that my tutor would be coming up to see how I'm getting on at my work placement. She came up yesterday and had a chat with the deputy manager. (manager isn't always around as she also manages somewhere else I think)
Today we got some feedback about how the workers think we're getting on, settling in, etc. Anyway, it basically said that they don't think this job is for me because I'm not motivated, but do seem to get on very well with the babies (my work placement is based in a nursery) now, the thing is I'm not motivated because I'm just depressed all the time (not seen a doctor about this, but from what I mentioned to a friend of mine, that's what he thinks it might be and other people have asked me the tsame thing)
Made a thread in the Hwalth forum last week and got advised not to say anything because the staff might see me as a danger to the children or something like that.
Now, do I tell anyone and risk being kicked off my course and out of my placement or do I keep quiet and act as though nothing is wrong? Bearing in mind that if I was to keep quiet about this, I'm going to be the same as I've been for the last month - not motivated and not joining in with anything.
On Monday I got told that my tutor would be coming up to see how I'm getting on at my work placement. She came up yesterday and had a chat with the deputy manager. (manager isn't always around as she also manages somewhere else I think)
Today we got some feedback about how the workers think we're getting on, settling in, etc. Anyway, it basically said that they don't think this job is for me because I'm not motivated, but do seem to get on very well with the babies (my work placement is based in a nursery) now, the thing is I'm not motivated because I'm just depressed all the time (not seen a doctor about this, but from what I mentioned to a friend of mine, that's what he thinks it might be and other people have asked me the tsame thing)
Made a thread in the Hwalth forum last week and got advised not to say anything because the staff might see me as a danger to the children or something like that.
Now, do I tell anyone and risk being kicked off my course and out of my placement or do I keep quiet and act as though nothing is wrong? Bearing in mind that if I was to keep quiet about this, I'm going to be the same as I've been for the last month - not motivated and not joining in with anything.
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By the sounds of it the staff dont think your up for the job because the way you feel and been acting, so you have nothing to lose in a sense. I would be honest and tell them. Who knows, it may go better than you think. Is there any counseling sessions from the college/uni place you go?
I would then suggest you tell your tutors that you are depressed (but not mention that you self-harm) and if necessary get a letter from your doctor for them (which needn't say anything about self-harm).
Correct me if I'm wrong here (I think someone on here said this) but if the doctors think I'm a 'danger' of some sort, don't they have the right to tell my parents?
AFAIK it's not the doctor that detirmines that you're a danger to the children, it's your boss. The doctor can only advise you with health matters (confidentially of course), and it's therefore up to your work placement to decide if you are a danger.
This is how it worked at the nursery I worked in, and my mums nursery.
Other than that they only have to tell someone if they think you are actively dangerous because of your condition (ie if you were a paedophile).
The advice not to tell your employer/college was based on an assumption that you were doing ok there. It seems that your not doing as well as you might be so I would suggest it's time for a rethink.
Remember it is very possible to say you are miserable/depressed and having trouble motivating yourself without mentioning to course/placement that you have self harmed.
My suggestions would be:
1) to make an appointment with your GP to talk about some of the problems you've been having and get some advice from them, medically.
2) to talk to your tutor about the feedback you've had, explain that you've been having problems more generally but that you're really keen to make the course and your placement work and ask for more support and feedback on things your doing right as well as what's less good.
For your GP/counsellor to break confidentiality they'd have to be convinced that you are a risk to the children, as in you may harm them, which isn't going to happen, so be honest with your GP.
It might help
I would mention it to your tutor, but not the workplace, it isnt for you to be detailing that sort of thing to a work placement.
speak to someone you can trust within the college. if its any type of decent college they will help you.
hang in there. you will get there if you seek help.