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Youve done the right thing though Byny.
It is just too sad. We will have to keep up our routines (Cats and dogs) for some time
To begin with he just didn't believe me, for about the first month, he kept saying things like, "You don't really mean it, do you?" :rolleyes: Then he kept asking if it was only going to be a trial separation... To begin with I used to answer him, and feel bad, but after a pretty short time I just started to feel annoyed. I didn't answer him then, I just used to roll my eyes and sigh.
Like SCC said, it'll take time for him to process the information, and until then you just have to stay strong. You obviously know you've done the right thing.
it's really horrible but I can't (for both our sakes) say anything that will give him hope because I don't want this anymore.
I feel like a total cow and I know he is going to mount a campaign to convince me to stay but I haven't been happy for years and him mtelling me now how much he loves me doesn't mean anything because he hasn't properly shown it for a long time.
I feel scared because I have someone else who I think I have slowly fallen in love with and who is in love with me but we're being cautious because it's quite early (though we have known eachother for over a year in one way or another) - I am scared because I don't want to be ending a relationship this long and pinning all my hopes on the new 'thing' but at the moment it feels right and has just been the thing to spur me on to do something about my own happiness.
And most of all it feels right.
Same here, again. Too little, too late.
I feel your pain here cause I'm going through almost the same situation (long term, 5 years, but minus the living together thing), and it is really hard to do, but I'm glad you found the courage to do it. It took me three months away in America to work up the guts to do it, and it was still really hard to do when I got back... Especially since it was the first thing I did after I got some sleep and a wash. Anyway, I hope you're doing ok and keeping on being positive. I know it's hard just now, but keep your chin up.
KoG
This morning he asked me if I was planning to move out over New Year (He's going away) which I thought was a bit odd. He thought because I had stuff in boxes etc that I was going to leave.
Does that sound weird.
I think we can live together quite reasonably!
He might find that quite painful.
Is it possible though that he's realised that we can't be lovers anymore but that after 12 years he still thinks we can be friends? I mean, when he suggested helping me with my stuff tonight and I told him I would be late back he said, casually, and with a grin 'oh - going to see your boyfriend?'