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How long as a guy do you do 4play with your g/f /partner before "doing it?"
I do about 30 mins, is that about normal?
Please advise me.
I do about 30 mins, is that about normal?
Please advise me.
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So true.
Sometimes loads and loads of foreplay is a the best thing in the world and sometimes you just can't wait to get to the main event. Don't go into it with the attitude "I'll give her 30 minutes max and if she ain't ready to be penetrated then sod this for a game of soldiers"; there is NO time limit and there are NO rules. Of course, in an ideal world you would both be enjoying yourself to the extent that you have completely forgotten what year it is... never mind how long you've been involved in foreplay.
Oh, and if in doubt, lick her muff
The fact that you've come here looking for advice shows that you're keen to please, so with that attitude things are bound to be at least ok to start if not great!
You might find TheSite's articles on clitoris confidence and giving her good head helpful - and be sure to let her know what you like too. :thumb:
and i find after a while 15 mins say fingers seems to slide deeper without trying.
2 minutes kissing
2 minutes undressing
5 minutes groping
10 minutes blowjob
15 minutes fingering
wetness check...
if wet enough proceed with 10 minutes of intercourse.'
Whilst that's supposed to a light-hearted exaggeration, I'm sure you see what I mean. Best is just to do whatever feels good for both of you and don't worry so much about whether you're going to have sex or not. The best time is when you're both really horny and just want it badly, because then you'll be too busy enjoying yourself to worry about other things.
Or do what I did and do it by accident :thumb:
But seriously. I'm not keen on loads, so I would have got very bored and very dry by the time 30 minutes was up. As everyone else has said, don't look at clocks, just go with whatever feels right at the time.
If it works for you then it's normal. Personally though it all depends on how i feel. Sometimes i like to take my time and lead up to the sex. this may include sensual massage, mutual masterbation, kissing, tying up, licking etc. Other times i just want to get straight to the good part and to hell with the foreplay.
Why do we need to look at the clock? :chin: My man is watching football downstairs so i've got a few hours to talk bollocks on the net before he comes back up.
Trust me, you DON'T think about time when it comes to sex. Most people just seriously take it as it comes, if you think about it too much you won't let yourself sink in completely into the absolute joy of a really good shag. Don't think, just do.