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And it's over.
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Well, after nearly 6 years my girlfriend and I have split up... The day I came back from America I went over to see her and told her straight away that I was leaving her. It was horrible, particularly because she thought I was joking and started laughing... So, many tears later (almost all from me) I left, collected my stuff the next day, left a letter, and haven't spoken to her since Tuesday.... It ended up when I was away that I realised that I was really unhappy with the relationship, and I had spoken with my Dad about it on Father's Day, so it's been in the works for a while now. When I was away I realised that I wanted my life to be in the States, while she wants to stay in Glasgow. I also don't want to get married or move in together, so that played a major part as well. I mean, I think that going to the States was basically so I could get some perspective on the situation, cause it's really hard to leave someone when you see them all the time. I suppose it's the whole comfort thing at play. Anyway, really sad that it's all over, but I know in my heart that this is for the best. I invested a lot of time and effort in our relationship, but I never really felt that it was reciprocated, so I think spliting up was the best thing to do. This really doesn't have a point to it, so apologies for that. I just needed somewhere to 'vent'...
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chin up
sorry to hear about your split hope everything works out for the best
Look forward to your future.
Glad to hear you had a good time in Arizona KofG. Hope you're well I think you've been really brave and have done well to follow your heart.
Time is your friend!
Yeah, it was cold hearted, but it was also the kindest way to do it. I had made up my mind to break up with her when I got back, and I could have waited until I had been back for a month, until after Christmas, until our anniversary... I could have done it over the phone while I was away. I felt that the best thing to do was to do it immediately the day I got back. I also wanted to do it face to face. Honestly, it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, and I hated hurting her, but this is the best for both of us in the long run
Anyhoo, nothing really constructive to add, just that I know how you're feeling, and I know from the past that it does get easier. Just keep reminding yourself that by cutting it off where you did, you can keep those years as good memories, rather than staying and getting to the point where you just resent each other.
Must be something in the water. My brother and his girlfriend broke up a few weeks ago after something like 8 years, with a child and a house. So you can imagine my parents are well chuffed at the prospect of having both their adult children moving home over the christmas period!
And you too kaffrin btw!
I think Johnny was actually responding to JayJay saying pull yourself together
*hugs*
hope you're okay. x
yeah, that was it:)
sorry about what happened to you KoG, hope you get better
Sorry to hear that kaff, hope your holding out ok and stuff.
King of glasgow, i know it takes a lot of bottle to do what you did but, you did it for the right reasons and for the best, it wouldn't have been fair with either of you to just keep on going, i know it's hard not to feel guilty but it would have been worse just to continue with teh relatioship just for the saje of it. Time is the healer and all that.
And Jonnyboy, sorry for misinterpreting your comment, sometimes it's hard to keep track of who's saying what to whom!
It's a bit depressing going from coupled up in my own house to single and partially homeless, with all my dearest possesions in Primark bags in my parents' spare room, but sometimes you have to go backwards to go forwards. And I still feel like I'm doing the right thing, which I guess has to make it all worthwhile.
On the bright side, all sorts of people have popped up offering shoulders and tea and beds for the night, should I want them, which makes my days easier. It's a bit heartwarming.
Since I split with my Boyfriend in Dec things have finally got better. We've accepted an offer on our house, I have had an offer accepted on another house which will take me back to Cardiff and nearer to my frineds. All going ok with the new man!
When I look back to the day I ended it and the weeks that followed I just can't believe I have come so far. It's tough sometimes, not least because I still live with the ex and he has been a complete arse sometimes, but I can actually see a better future now. Am so looking forward to the changes I am facing, and to being able to have a place of my own.
First off - I know it's an old topic, I thought it better to bump this one as we were all going through similar things.
Matt - give it time. I know that's a trite thing to say but you had tour reasons for ending it and they will become clearer.
Ah well at least you have fond memories, time is the best healer and distance and theres plenty of distance between the US and glasgow ! you might even be friends in a few years time.