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My friends and I are becoming concerned about a friend of ours. She's severly obese and was recently told she's wheat intolerant. But the doctor didn't advise her or refer her to a nutritionist and was basically told ''don't eat wheat, off you go.''
Anyway, since then she's been eating more and more rubbish. She eats rye bread but after that she eats loads of crisps and chocolate, pop etc. We're getting really worried about her, she doesn't seem to have a clue on what to eat. We want to help her but we don't know how to bring it up....any advice?
Anyway, since then she's been eating more and more rubbish. She eats rye bread but after that she eats loads of crisps and chocolate, pop etc. We're getting really worried about her, she doesn't seem to have a clue on what to eat. We want to help her but we don't know how to bring it up....any advice?
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Her mum works in a nursery so is always bringing bugs home and she's currently ill with one now, and she always looks drained. So she needs to be helping her immune system now, especially as it's winter. It's just worrying to think that she's so big already, and she's only just turned 17, i dread to think what will happen in years to come if she carries on.
I suppose we need to bring it up casually, one of our friends is already seeing one so maybe she can suggest it....she has no problems bringing stuff up either.
I'm not sure the doctor should have made her cut out all wheat with no supplements to help with what she's not gaining... is she having to take any vitamins/medications? I don't really know, I just know I get poorly when I've cut food gorups so harshly from my diet in the past, but I am a generealy ill person.
Maybe you and her can cook a healthy meal together. I know a lot of people who eat crap because they don't know how to cook.
Maybe she binge eats because she's unhappy.
i'm always dropping hints on healthy stuff, but it doesn't seem to work. I'm not sure what she eats at home but i doubt it's much better.
And no, she's not taking anything. I'm not sure there is anything you can take in place of wheat. But that's all she was told.
It sounds to me like she would be eating the junk any way, and the no wheat thing is just used by her as an excuse. Rye bread if she can eat that, jacket potatoes, rice and potatoes instead of pasta, rice cakes instead of bread are all pretty simple substitutes and very healthy alternatives.
Gentle arm twisting to get her down the pool/gym/dancing/any other form of exercise would probably do her the world of good.
No amount of telling her how to eat right is going to get her to eat right. She needs to hear it from a professional - someone she can respect.
She also needs shocking into it. Obese people need their arses kicked before they actually take charge of their problem and actually see it is a problem. A lot of people are like 'I'm fat and proud' but they don't see that it's killing them.
If you (she) don't get what you need on the first GP visit, go back and keep going back until you get what you need!
I think it's an excuse too, because she's not really looked into alternatives. I've asked her to come to the gym several times, i'll try again when she's better. I think she's shy because she's so big, she's deffinatly not proud of it, but not motivated enough to do anything about it. But at the end of the day, everyone in the gym is there for the same reason.