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Christianity and foreplay/sex
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Hey everyone,
I was just wondering about how far you can go with a woman if ur a Christian. I have been going out with ma gf for 4 months now and our relationship is starting to get serious. We both love each other, however i'm a Christian and she is not. I know you should not have sexual intercourse but what about foreplay and touching places? I dont doubt whether i want to do it or not, its just my religion tells me not to and its hard. I'm kinda stuck in that i want to do it with her but i dont want to jepodise my relationship with God either.
Please help guys.
I was just wondering about how far you can go with a woman if ur a Christian. I have been going out with ma gf for 4 months now and our relationship is starting to get serious. We both love each other, however i'm a Christian and she is not. I know you should not have sexual intercourse but what about foreplay and touching places? I dont doubt whether i want to do it or not, its just my religion tells me not to and its hard. I'm kinda stuck in that i want to do it with her but i dont want to jepodise my relationship with God either.
Please help guys.
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Well there you go then.
Your faith is your own interpretation of the bible, no one can tell you what to believe. Some Christians will take it to mean nothing before sex, others will just do it.
It's up to how you take the Bible. If you believe you have to stick to every word then you do that. But if you're gonna stick with it with this, you're gonna have to stick with it the whole time. K? Otherwise that would be hypocritical.
I don't know my Bible off my heart, but unless you're a Catholic, I don't think that there is anything against masturbation or foreplay or whatever. The Bible just warns being a slag about it.
Personally, I used the whole 'no sex before marriage' thing to translate as 'no sex before love'. Marriage is a symbol of love, ya se? A sure sign.
And so. I don't believe in sleeping around, but I do believe in having sex with someone you love.
But it's up to you. No one can tell you what to do. And if you think it's gonna really affect your relationship with God, then maybe you should reconsider what you're doing.
I don't quite get that you said you can have sex ... but the penis cannot go inside the girl? But that is sex?
you must both compromise on your beliefs over this matter, her on yours, and you on hers.
In Heaven - Cliff Richard, Elgar, Mary Whitehouse
In Hell - Hendrix, Clapton etc etc etc
Personally I am going all out for being barred from Heaven. Who wants to spend eternity with Cliff Fucking Richard?
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He wrote "everything but have sex". 'Everything but' is a phrase that means 'everything except'.
Sits me up because I used to go camping and share a tent with other girls. :nervous:
Check Adambombz title
If you are sufficiently interested - which it seems you may be - I would strongly recommend listening to the 'What does God think of sex?' link at this address:
http://www.sheffieldcu.org.uk/downloads.php
It's really all about drawing an intangible line somewhere. Obviously kissing, for example, is clearly not sex, so there is a line somewhere beyond kissing but short of 'sex' as we understand it which you shouldn't cross. It is a tough one to answer.
I'd also point out, most importantly, that the real issue here is NOT how you interpret the bible - it is the way you interpret the word 'sex'.
I personally think the most sensible/clear cut place to drawn the line is short of acts involving the primary sexual organs.
As far as I am concerned, it is certainly NOT up to the individual christian to decide what the 'general rule' is; the bible makes it unequivocally clear!! The bible *clearly* outlaws sex before marriage. No realistic 'interpretation' of the bible can get away from that.
Yes, Christians' interpretation of what sex is may vary, but it is clear that the bible does outlaw 'sexual' activity - whatever you take that to mean - before marriage.
Somebody said earlier that they're fine with sex and it's up to what suits you - with respect, that is absurd; if you profess to be a christian then you have decided 'what suits you' and what rules you live by - The Bible!! And even the broadest interpretation of the book could never ever conclude that pre-marital 'sex' - as the word is commonly understood - is ok.
(I'd personally say the bible/religion is man made too but I can't prove it and you don't believe it but you can prove marriage is man made)
I really couldnt care less what your personal beliefs are, I think it is down to each individual to decide that for themselves.
no it wasnt, the one above yours
implied all christians follow the bible in the same way, which they dont really. it amuses me greatly that people from the same religion argue amongst themselves about the texts they are based on
I also think that religion is a man made thing, but then being unique to man, it would be I guess... I've always thought religion's sole beginning was the lack of understanding by man of his surroundings, but this isn't really the place to go into that.
ah yeah... how odd!
You can only 'interpret' something so far before you've moved so far away from it that it is something completely different. You can't be a 'pick your own' Christian, and willingly ignore some of the rules you don't like (well, you can, but if you reject one or more of its absolutely fundamental principles, are you really a 'christian' anyway?). You're in or you're out. The issue we're talking about is an absolutely fundamental one and isn't open to interpretation. As I've said, the word 'sex' is ambiguous/open to interpretation, but the basic notion which comes from the Bible is a clear one.
And, might I add, *no one* follows the Bible 'literally'. In 2006, it is logistically/practically impossible. Folks would be doing all kinds of ridiculous things. Some hang on its words more than others, but, for example, no 'christian' can claim it is alright to derogate from one of the ten commandments, and still expect themselves to be taken seriously as a christian.
On a sidenote, I couldn't give a monkey's nuts what your personal beliefs are either, but then that's nothing to do with this is it?
Pre-marital sex is condemned in Romans, 1 Corinthians, 2 Corinthians, Ephesians, Colossians Thessalonians, Jude, Hebrews.......!!
whether or not another christian would agree with this is another thing, but that doesnt really matter.
I'm a christian but I'm fine with pre-marital sex
I'm a vegitarian but I'm partial to the odd pork chop
Surely it's obvious that the actions don't match the label??