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Girl trouble
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I have known this girl on the net for 2 years almost(we use AOL so we talk to each other a LOT), and I think I have fallen for her. I know its only the net, but she writes in pink and its really cute, and also considering we speak like nearly every night, it aint that surprising wot I feel for her. We both have our own "real" mates and things, and I know she has a lot of male admirers + she is a red blooded 14 year old female, of course she is gonna fancy blokes. I know I dont wanna ruin our freindship we have built up over the years, but every time I sign on she is there and my heart beats and beats and beats, it is really scary. She lives in London, I'm up in Aberdeen, but I cant get her off my mind. I dunno wot to do at all. Help !!!!!!
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My advice to you is to look closer to home <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
with that type of long distance, particularly at ur age, it'd be hard to keep anything going
but how long have u loved this lass? it might just be something that u get over and still remain friends or it might be something that drives u insane (which i've also had) where u love someone mroe and more but can't touch, hear or even see them. it's wonderful but horrible at the same time.
make up ur mind before u spill the beans
good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
LIFE: Quite interesting in parts, but no substitute for the real thing
but as for the friendship angle.. im not really in a position to say at the mo, im still trying to work that out for myself! i have been good friends, best friends even with a few people on the net and never met them or anything (hadnt even seen a pic of one guy)...and i thought it was something more. i did love them, but as friends rather than in love. i know that i was just confusing my feelings for these people (one lived in america too!), and now i am just friends with one of them. but as monkey boy said... theres also the drive you insane thing. you just know them as the way they type, and havent even met them or heard their voice. yet you still have strong feelings about them, and cant do anything about it coz of the distance and all the whole meeting issue. but is it worth risking the friendship, if it does all go wrong? especially if they are a long distance away.
but i wouldnt recommend falling in love on the net. it can be great... but also frustrating, and there are decisions to be made if you want to pursue it. but then again... i think it can work, if both people feel the same way and are willing to try and make it work <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
sorry if this hasnt been totally relevant to your question.. i went off on one! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
You mentioned the flirting, this isnt always a sure sign of someone liking you in that way, my friend Louise is one of the most attractive girls in college, she flirts with me and I flirt with her, but she doesn't want to go out with me because she feels she isnt ready for a relationship (she has never had a bf!), and she doesn't want it to ruin our friendship, plus I am in a long term relationship anyway, which means other girls are off limits. This maybe your net buddy's reaction as well, she may value you more as a friend than a bf.
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
I told you this before, but you're so romantic <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> Actually, my friend's younger sister met a lad she was talking to over the internet, pretty bloody dangerous but hey, she's done it now. It turned out he only lived a few miles away, they started going out for real, were together for 4 or 5 months until he moved. Can happen. Unusual though.
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Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">