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He's quite old and was brought up a certain way, so his views on things like racism and gay people are very old-fashioned. Forgetting that, I can have a good laugh with him and he is quite mellow when you think about the 1940's style upbringing he had.
I'd say I'm a bit of a Mummy's boy really because he was away working a lot when I was a kid, so he's maybe not influenced me as much as he might have done.
I lived with my mum until i was 21 we had one final argument to many and as it worked out i came back to live with my dad and it's been the best thing that has happened for me. He's such a softie but get on the wrong side of him, well actually I've only had it happen once that's how much i know not to do it ! We've never actually argue'd before though. That one time i just said something about a neighbour that royally pissed him off lol
We talk about all sorts of nonsense. I feel that the way things have happened, life has put us back together to fill in the years i did not live with him. When i was a kid i was told i couldn't see him at times and I'd say i was going to play in the park but run away to his house, he'd make me lunch then I'd go home and pretend i had fun at the park. I remember i would cry because i couldn't see him but it made my day when i did. Aww .. heh
I appreciate both parents now i'm older & wiser but i still feel closer with my dad than mum. My dad always says to me, " you coming back to live with me is the best thing to happen to me son " that really makes me smile, i never really felt loved living with my mum because her and my sister got on better than me and mum. My dad get's miffed that none of his other kids make any effort with him like i do.
My dad's the greatest. He's old school but i keep him up with the times :thumb: I brought him into our century, and my mum ! lol
Dad's a good guy. We dont talk much, he's not a talking guy.
he'll pick me up whenever I need to be picked up and I really have him wrapped around my little finger.
He and my sister fight a lot which is annoying. Theyre as bad as eachother.
how often do you get to see him?
it upsets me that my dad doesn't really ring me - nor has he offered me any financial support for uni this year (or the other years - i've always had to ask which i hate doing).
Still, we're getting along really well. He lives relatively far now, but I plan to visit at least every second weekend. He still annoys me sometimes, but I guess that's how it is with all parents. You can't be 103% fine with them.
However, love and forgiveness can be difficult to maintain sometimes...
Lol That's very similar to my situation!
He has, however, said that he's going to keep working til he has enough to pay for his daughters going through Uni. I think that's going to be at least til me and Lizzy are through Uni (we're both starting next September *intheory*, and hers is a 4-year course). Bearing in mind he's gonna be 60 next year, and he's already been in Africa for 8 years, that's a long time without my daddy. I've kinda gotten used to it now though. The only time the distance gets to me is when I feel really shit and kinda need to talk to my daddy, the only way I can talk to him is over the phone, and it's not the same. It's not just a case of getting on a train, it's a £700 plane journey. *shrug*.
When I was little, he used to make up stories about 'super richard' and his adventures. They were amazing
When I was a bit older, he was always reliable. My mum tried, but like, would often let me down. Not her fault though. My dad never did.
He got cancer and it didn't affect our relationship much, but as I grew up we got closer. It's cruel really because the last few months of his life were our best because of my newfound maturity
He was a great man, I think he had skeletons in his closet from being in the forces, he was involved in some pretty top secret stuff and never really told us... just bits now and then. You know, they tested some virus on him I think, put him in a room and put the virus in.
I'd never join the services, because although they look good, they just use you. My dad had an extremely rare cancer growth and they couldn't work out what caused it, because he had lots of little tumours, one is rare but a group? They suspected it may have been something he was exposed to (it was in his chest cavity).
Anyway, yea, he was really lovely
i hate it
my dad and i clash personalities, we're both stubborn and he can be a control freak at times and throws tantrums. I'm the only 1 who stands up to him so you can imagine.
Like in florida, i didn't want my picture taken 1 day and he went off in a huff for an hour then ignored me for the rest of the day.
He still treats me like im 6 most of the time so i get annoyed with him quite alot. He's leaving soon i think to live with his gf so it might help.
Better hope he never find that porn on your mobile then .. :thumb:
That's a shame, ... not in the sense you've missed out on not having a father .. but I reckon he's the one that's missed out loads not knowing he's got an iccle baby he never knew existed.
Do you have any interest in finding out who he is if you could?
Same here
I'm in a similar situation and I know she doesn't like it. Well, it's not my fault that I'm the only one (out of brother sister & I) who likes football and motorbikes.
So I guess you could say I don't really have a relationship with him anymore!