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What's your relationship with your Dad like?
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following on from the other thread...:)
my parents divorced when i was around 6 years old. from then until the age of 10 i used to split my time with my dad and my mum and step-dad. one month i'd be with my dad at the weekends and my mum and step-dads during the week and then the next month it'd be the other way around. when i was 10 my mum and step-dad moved down to oxfordshire and i decided to go with them so that arrangement stopped and i haven't lived with my dad properly since then (i'm 21 now).
my dad moved down to somerset around 8 years ago now (i think) and since then i've only seen him 1-3 times a year. lately it's been largely dependent on family gatherings e.g. funerals. this year i've seen him twice - for his wedding and for my nephews birthday. i'll probably be seeing him at christmas so doing quite well!
my dad doesn't really make much of an effort to keep in touch with me. i once decided not to ring him and it got to about 7 weeks and i'd heard nothing. sounds a bit rubbish doesn't it! he's the same with my other sisters but 1 of my sisters is always on the phone so she rings him most weeks - i'm too stubborn and like to wait for him to ring me. i can't remember the last time he rang me just for a chat. that makes him sound like such an uncaring father but he's not really..he just err doesn't ring me!
my ex boyfriends parents split up and he lived with his mum after the divorce. he still sees his dad regularly and his dad makes an effort with ringing him etc so it really annoyed him about my dad and he found it hard to understand.
when i do talk to my dad it's fine, but it annoys me when he asks me about uni because it's the last thing i want to be asked about and it feels like he's nagging when i haven't spoken to him in a while. when i see him i get a bit annoyed because he doesn't know what kind of foods i like and my mum does so it feels like he doesn't know me (can't be helped, i know).
sorry it's a bit long!
your turn now.
my parents divorced when i was around 6 years old. from then until the age of 10 i used to split my time with my dad and my mum and step-dad. one month i'd be with my dad at the weekends and my mum and step-dads during the week and then the next month it'd be the other way around. when i was 10 my mum and step-dad moved down to oxfordshire and i decided to go with them so that arrangement stopped and i haven't lived with my dad properly since then (i'm 21 now).
my dad moved down to somerset around 8 years ago now (i think) and since then i've only seen him 1-3 times a year. lately it's been largely dependent on family gatherings e.g. funerals. this year i've seen him twice - for his wedding and for my nephews birthday. i'll probably be seeing him at christmas so doing quite well!
my dad doesn't really make much of an effort to keep in touch with me. i once decided not to ring him and it got to about 7 weeks and i'd heard nothing. sounds a bit rubbish doesn't it! he's the same with my other sisters but 1 of my sisters is always on the phone so she rings him most weeks - i'm too stubborn and like to wait for him to ring me. i can't remember the last time he rang me just for a chat. that makes him sound like such an uncaring father but he's not really..he just err doesn't ring me!
my ex boyfriends parents split up and he lived with his mum after the divorce. he still sees his dad regularly and his dad makes an effort with ringing him etc so it really annoyed him about my dad and he found it hard to understand.
when i do talk to my dad it's fine, but it annoys me when he asks me about uni because it's the last thing i want to be asked about and it feels like he's nagging when i haven't spoken to him in a while. when i see him i get a bit annoyed because he doesn't know what kind of foods i like and my mum does so it feels like he doesn't know me (can't be helped, i know).
sorry it's a bit long!
your turn now.
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Bad when drunk.
Bad, when I am lazy.
Generally good. Usually I get a tad bit better on with my mum, but I tend to joke around a lot with my dad.
I hate it, when my father tries to explain something to me. I always think he wants to patronize me (oh the irony.)
but it's quite ok. He is a funny man and we joke around a lot.
This is sad
I had the following image in my head.
"Daddy, daddy... is mum a high quality woman?"
"Yes my son... This is the reason why I made her my princess."
condolences
There are however two issues firstly my dad doesnt' think that i love him or am as affectionate towards him as I should be - at the end of every meeting there is kind of like this thing where he kind of forces me to kiss him goodbye and then makes a big deal about how I clearly hate doing it - which then obv makes it all the worse.
The second is that I can't be as extreme as him and therefore am a dissapointment. I probably don't have a good enough go getting job for him - i'm too reserved to push myself forward so i'm never going to be this high flying graduate type - except he was a high flying graduate and now recruits them to work with him so i'm never going be like one of them. As well as this there are things where I feel i've failed him - like a couple of weekends ago we all went sailing - I was on the wheel and the wind became really strong and I basically didn't have the strenth to hold it any more and kind of pathetically started going daddy come and take the wheel which he did but then kind of made it really clear that i was pathetic and shouldn't get scared (and should be stronger). Then on the way home i was driving his car but he kept on telling me I wasn't driving fast enough - but it was dark and we were driving down country lanes and didn't want to kill us and we were going as fast as the speed limit, then when we got home he said his car was meant to be driven faster (its a porche something or other) and just let me know I wasnt' as much of a nutter as he was and I should be more of one rather than being safe.
ppfft I do try its just i dont' want to kill myself and other people in the mean time. Mind you my dad is so much of a nutter in his car I never get scared with other people driving (well except my granddad who is even scaryier). Oh and I do like him I just don't see why at the age of 25 I was expected to suddenly turn into this huggy kissy person when hes never been there to hug and kiss before. But at least he keeps my nutty mother in order with his very scary silences
We don't have deep and meaningfuls and I feel quite sad that because of his personality and very reserved nature I won't ever know him the way I know my mam or be able to talk to him the same way. But yeah, we had/have our small issues with one another but it seems to be completely overshadowed by the fact that he thinks the sun shines out of my arse and I think he is a lovely, lovely man
He had a stroke not so long ago, and he's fine now, but it makes me appreciate what I've got.
Me too. He's my papa and his line "what do I always say... your papa always looks out for his nana"
Good that you proved him wrong then :razz:
(no hard feelings^^ It's just coincidence that it hit you twice today
As for my relationship with my Dad, I have a good relationship with mine.
Was always a Daddy's girl
I don't talk to him about stuff but I love him to bits!