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Friends with benefits?
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I have this mate from college, and the other weekend we ended up kissing and stuff in the bathroom while we were at a mates house. We were both kinda drunk. Anyway, we didn't regret it at all, and want it to happen again, but he wants it to happen with no strings attached. Do you think hes just using my for sex? He said he doesn't want a relationship, just fun.
Oh yeah, don't know if this is relevant but I'm still a virgin, kinda fucked up if he wants to use me for sex when I'm a virgin, yes?
Oh yeah, don't know if this is relevant but I'm still a virgin, kinda fucked up if he wants to use me for sex when I'm a virgin, yes?
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He may think you want the same.
Talk to him! But fuck buddies can be good...but perhaps not in your case. Sounds like you want more...to which he cant/wont give
you need to make sure you keep 100% emotionally UNinvolved. otherwise it'll get messy!
If you aren't sure I'd say wait.
you're more likely to regret losing it to him than not losing to him
If he wants it with no strings attached he just wants you for sex.
OOOORRR, if he says he wants it with no strings attached, he wants you for a g/f, but hates to admit it (less likely).
If you want no strings attached either, then it's all good.
If you want strings attached, then it sucks.
if you want to lose it to him and are sure then go for it, and fuck buddies are brilliant as its sex on tap really.
however as you ARE a virgin you may very well end up feeling used at the end, and as lucifer said, if you ARE going to be agreed fuck buds then you do need to keep your emotions unattatched- dont have sex with him just to be with him.
does he know youre a virgin? if he doesnt then maybe you should tell him, it seems quite important to me really!
think carefully and have fun
I mean the no-strings bit does kind of worry you, but like you said if you both want it too happen, it does sound like there might be something there...
Talk to him, after all whats the worse that could happen? Tell him how you feel, and like most people have said if you are going to consider being fuck buddies you should let him know you're a virgin.
Anyway good luck with whatever you choose
like kermit said it's not necessarily 'using' in a negative sense.
from what i can tell about you from this thread i don't think you should.
If you don't want to have sex with him, then don't. If you do, do. But don't have sex with him and then treat him as if he's "using" you, because he ain't.
friends with benefits is great in theory but it can be hard not to get emotionaly involved and wish they texted you or huged you etc and cared for you
but its easier than having a boyfriend-saves credit! haha & your less likely to get hurt if you know what your in for
i wouldnt loose your virginity with one though, that should be with someone special