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Think im being used here! HELP!!!
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Ok - i could really do with some advice here people!! Theres this guy i work with - who i see twice a week and think that i may have fallen in love with. He has a girlfriend, but has been very encouraging towards me and basically is unfaithful to her with me and asked me to sleep with him. I havent - yet - but iv been further with him than i have ever been before with anyone else. The thing is - sometimes after we've been intimate he ignores me or doesnt call me and i feel really used. Then when we row, i get really hurt but we always make up, do more 'stuff' then i get hurt again. Thing is - hes a really good friend to me as well and i miss him when hes not there. AT the same time tho i dont think i can handle feeling used all the time, and seeing him with his girlf at college. What the **** am i supposed to do!! HELP!!!!!
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Steer well clear of him.
Its this treat em mean, keep em keen, I know this sounds cruel but I have been with quite a few guys who have got girlfriends and they just like to shag about really. They never have any intention of finishing thier girlfriend and starting a relationship with you, they just see you as an easy way to get off. In my experience when the guy has known that Ive really liked them they have used it against me. They know they can get away with things, and that because you like them that you wouldnt try and split them up with thier girlfriends. As for him being a really good friend to you, that is all part of the way the play it, he may want it to seem that way to you so that you are under his thumb a bit more if you get my drift. If you are feeling used there is a good chance you are being used but you cannot see that because you are so wrapped up in your feelings for him.
Im sure you can find a better guy who will like you and only you.
On the other hand he could really like you, Im just telling you what I think from where Im sitting. You need to sort this out soon because the longer you let it go on the harder it will be to let go.
If you gave him an ultimatum and he chose you, could you trust him knowing that he is being unfaithful to the girlfriend he has now.
There are so many things to think about.
I hope that you sort this out.
I have been through this so many times, it would be nice to hear what you decide and what happens between you both.
Good Luck!!!
is get out and get out now and stay well clear of him
Unfortunately - steering well clear isnt really an option- i have to work with him! So i kinda gotta at least be civil you know? Other wise its just shit at work and that sucks. Im talkin to him now - havent been for the last week - but as of yet i havent flawed and given him 'nethin' that he wants - YET!! Gotta stay strong! Wish me luck - oh and by the way - are there ANY decent guys out there? Lucy (18) xxx
come on ladies, email me on gt2masta@hotmail.com !!!!!
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Me 3 and this guy sounds like a jerk so try not to let him upset you!
Life is like a beautiful melody, only the lyrics are messed up
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LOL are you the lover doctor or something?
Life is like a beautiful melody, only the lyrics are messed up
hehehe
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but you not falling in love with me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif">
Life is like a beautiful melody, only the lyrics are messed up
I don't know, maybe - we'll see.
HINT HINT lucy
[This message has been edited by MaLkAv (edited 29-11-2000).]
I never said that did I, anyway I reckon weve been getting on pretty well, chatting to each other and that.
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