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Treat Them Mean Keep Them Keen?
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What does this statement mean whilse going out with someone?
What does it mean?
What does it mean?
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It's a load of bollocks IMHO and don't abide by it at all.
i think its just when you don't text them first, you don't reply straight away or not at all, you act busy etc. its all game playing.
it kinda works because if i meet a guy and he acts really keen and texts me loads i do find it a bit off-putting. wheras if i have to do some of the chasing i will be more interested. i don't actually want a guy to be mean to me though!
however, if things get more serious and you're actually in a relationship then things should be equal and honest. if i felt like a guy was still playing games then i wouldn't put up with it.
Agree completely. It's not a tactic to use in a developed relationship, that'll just cause huge problems and more than likely get you dumped... but it can be used to good effect in the first days and weeks of meeting someone. I'm with lipsy in that a really keen, pandering behaviour in a bloke is a huge turn-off, but then so would being rude and ignoring me. I think there's a fine line between the two that you have to tread.
Also it's worth bearing in mind that treat "them" mean, keep "them" keen isn't a blanket rule to live by, even when you first meet a girl. Generally speaking in terms of relationships there is no "us" and "them". Everyone's different, and the behaviour that would make one girl fall at your feet would possibly make another want to connect her fist with your jaw
I reckon it's true....if a guy starts doing anything I want, always calls on time, always available etc I get bored, start to take the piss and lose interest and respect.
As for specifically the 'treat them mean' thing, i think it just means don't be afraid to take the piss out of her, or tell her you think her taste in music is shit, or her opinion on something is wrong. It's called being yourself, not being the person you think she want's you to be. It's more treating her normally, than treating her mean.
There’s nothing more appealing than someone who is the description of the above. Yes it’s nice to be treated like a princess!! But not all the time!
It means your girlfriend will love you if you perform a dirty sanchez on her.
Of course, mean isn't the same as deliberately hurting me or being spiteful. There has to be respect. Just don't always drop all plans to be with me! I won't repay the favor in kind no matter how well its intended.
Another darker side is the guys who start out nice and still are to family and friends, but end up becoming total bastards towards their gfs and have managed to convince them that it's all their fault. Sadly, my close friend is in a relationship like that which is truly heartbreaking. I don't know who I want to smack harder, her or the bloke.
I always say that, too many people are materialistic these days