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Dealing with the Green Eyed Monster
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Is it just me or does anybody else suffer with jealousy :banghead:
I know its shit being jealous, but im really jealous of my best mate, and it's f*c!ing awful. We do get on and have some awesome times together but he has got everything I want and can only dream of having.
It really tears me up sometimes. :grump: Unless someone has a mircale cure for jealous anyone else been in this position with a friend in their life?
I thought of cutting all ties with this person, because of how low it makes me feel. But this guy really treats me like a good mate. I dont know what to do, sometimes I think things would be easier if I just cut all ties, but good mates are so hard to come by.
Anyone got any ideas ? I dont know if I should tell him how jealous Iam. Apart from looking like a dick it could just make things worse.
thanks all :thumb:
I know its shit being jealous, but im really jealous of my best mate, and it's f*c!ing awful. We do get on and have some awesome times together but he has got everything I want and can only dream of having.
It really tears me up sometimes. :grump: Unless someone has a mircale cure for jealous anyone else been in this position with a friend in their life?
I thought of cutting all ties with this person, because of how low it makes me feel. But this guy really treats me like a good mate. I dont know what to do, sometimes I think things would be easier if I just cut all ties, but good mates are so hard to come by.
Anyone got any ideas ? I dont know if I should tell him how jealous Iam. Apart from looking like a dick it could just make things worse.
thanks all :thumb:
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chemo is not helping here mate!
you need willpower!
Whoever said it wasnt half wrong.
Chances are there's some stuff that you've got that he doesn't have, even though you don't realise it.
I wouldn't bring it up in a serious way, just next time something he has that you're jealous of comes up, just say "Awww, you've loads going for you I'm right jealous" or something and see what he says.
It'll pass.
He has been a great mate and really helped sort myself out over the last few years hence the reason I dont wanna loose him, and the only person in the world I can talk with about real personal problems.
Also does jealousy diminish with age, when you get older are you less jealous of others or is it i suspect about self confidence ? :thumb:
I think it's maybe a confidence thing, have you always been jealous of people generally, or is this a one off?
I know it sounds wanky, but maybe you can use your jealousy to push you on to do stuff with your life, stuff that'd make you happy?
But I know what you mean, I'm jealous of my flatmate sometimes. Mainly because he's loaded with hardly having to lift a finger (jealous of this), but then he's a cocky and sleazy git (not jealous of this), so I just shrug and try not to think about it.
I have learned alot from my mate, Im a better person now without a doubt because I watch him and learn how he deals with situations, so in that respect its done me some good. When I meet him at university I knew nothing about life and how things work. Now Im better at dealing with things, before i would have just run away!
I just find myself hiding things from him, because i dont want him to think less of me. The more i think about this the more i feel it is about confidence. He knows i think a lot of him but sometimes it really hurts inside and I cant say anything.
Guess thats why they call it 'Cancer of the Soul'
haha!! I just pulled that out of my ass myself!
Oh yes... Twain, Hesse, Adanauer, Wilde, Shaw and last but not least Strubbs.
I may just end up wrecking a good friendship but being jealous is shit and at the moment he thinks i give him mixed messages, when really it hurts when i feel jealous. :banghead:
Is honesty the best policy, even if I do look like a dickhead
No it's not!
Keep on distance from your friend a bit, you might be ruining a perfectly good friendship. Don't tell him, what should he be doing anyway? Ditch his girlfriend so you ain't jealous anymore? Telling him does not stop you from being jealous, grow some balls and take it as a man, that some people "have it better" than yourself.
jealousy
read the thread.
I used to sometimes feel jealous of one of my friends as she seemed to have everything, like a family and a settled life, a home. Then she said she was envious of me having freedom to do what I want. Things always seem rosier from another side. I'm sure you have some qualities and talents that your friend doesn't have.
I do get really jealous when my boyfriend hangs or hugs his ex-girlfriend because he claims that he hates her, but he'll still act friendly towards her.