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However, what you need to be careful to avoid is trying to force something where there isn't. That is, focus more on getting to know women and focus less on getting them into the sack. (in any case, if you know them well, you'll soon have a better idea of how to get them in the sack, but I digress)
Bad advice. Obviously some friendships can develop into relationships, but as a rule, acting as a platonic friend (or, likely in her eyes, a beta male) is NOT the way to go.
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But if two people mutually hit it off then there's no point in having a platonic "getting to know each other" stage, which for girls tends to be seriously off-putting anyway as you convey an image of a beta-male with low confidence and sex drive.
You pull, shag if you can, and continue to see her if you like her. If the chemistry for that isn't there at the start, it probably won't be later on. As i say, friendship before a relationship can work for some people - but it's the exception to the rule rather than the rule itself.
If you're worried about the virgin/never been kissed thing then get yourself a nice prostitute. If you want companionship get yourself a dog (maybe a Golden Retriever).
In the end you'll save yourself from a lot of stress and heartache.
But like it has been mentioned before, a prostitue would only give him a quick shag and that would be it. And how on earth would you tell any future girlfriends that your first time was with a prostitute?
Companionship is a thing that all of us can relate to, even if you've never experienced anything past the relationship between you and your parents (or equivalent). For the record, I am one of these folk for the time being. Companionship with another human being is an unimaginable force. To be able to relate to someone directly and intimately. To be able to interact and progress through conversation or situation. To deter and fetter the malice that is isolation. If you have that opportunity don't ever abuse it. Because to be lost, alone in your own mind is a morass of insanity and despair.
I agree with stargalaxy here. If you are inept with chatting up girls it's not useful to have the mindframe of getting laid tonight. Chat up girls as if you don't care, and don't be the drooling idiot that looks down her cleavage all the time. Girls are able to smell if you want in their panties, and then they are usually not very interested in getting you to know (unless you are casanova of 2006).
Just be friendly, and "pleasant to have around" and everything will come from alone. This does NOT MEAN that you land in the friendszone, keep subtle hinting, little touches, a spent drink (but not the fucking first thing, before you even introduced yourself), and ask to dance.
This works especially if you are not THAT experienced with girls, but if you approach her with "oh nice rack." count yourself 98% on the declined-list.
/ninja edit: Even if it does NOT work out, hell who cares? You did not came into those thing with the mindframe of getting laid tonight beforehand (OR DID YOU???). this is a great way of making friends and sooner as you would expect you've having some matress mambo.
@IWS: totally. A room, a computer, food, pr0n and a right hand that never nags around. Oh, and no daylight either! :thumb:
Making accusations like that is not on Matt - if you have doubts, suspicions etc about any board user then you should report them to a moderator privately not air them on the boards. Thanks.
With one I fucked it up so badly, we did not talk for half a year and then everything was pretty much dead, and the other was 7 years older then me and lived a thousand miles away.
It definitelly can work and imho it's still the best kind of relationship. I am pretty picky with girl friends. I have all kinds of male friends, but I hang out with only a little amount of girls... come to think of it, usually ones I could somehow imagine a rlship with... jeez I'm calculable, don't tell that around!
Well it's not appropriate on the boards.