If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
a fag after sex
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I often here people joking/talking about having a fag after sex, in a bad light.
And it got me thinking, what is the actual problem with having a fag after sex? Is it the walking away to do something else? Is it that not all the attention is on you any more, or the removal of said fag person from the situation? does it make you feel un-loved or un-wanted?
Is it actually any different to walking away and making a cup of tea, something to eat, or having a shower? Or is it more of an antisocial thing?
Personally i disagree with smoking anyway, but it doesnt seem any more wrong to me than having a fag at any other time. The opposite sex smoking in general puts me off and if that occured after sense then i would still be put off to a similar degree, nothing to do with the sex beforehand.
I was just wondering what all the fuss is about really.
What would it mean/portray to you lot if your sexual partner went for a cigarette after sex?
If you would be offended, why? I'd quite like to understand why people dont like it. I can understand that it makes the other person bloody stink, but thats about all i can gather from it yet i know that people can get *really* upset about it
And it got me thinking, what is the actual problem with having a fag after sex? Is it the walking away to do something else? Is it that not all the attention is on you any more, or the removal of said fag person from the situation? does it make you feel un-loved or un-wanted?
Is it actually any different to walking away and making a cup of tea, something to eat, or having a shower? Or is it more of an antisocial thing?
Personally i disagree with smoking anyway, but it doesnt seem any more wrong to me than having a fag at any other time. The opposite sex smoking in general puts me off and if that occured after sense then i would still be put off to a similar degree, nothing to do with the sex beforehand.
I was just wondering what all the fuss is about really.
What would it mean/portray to you lot if your sexual partner went for a cigarette after sex?
If you would be offended, why? I'd quite like to understand why people dont like it. I can understand that it makes the other person bloody stink, but thats about all i can gather from it yet i know that people can get *really* upset about it
0
Comments
It's not as if you have to wander off, anyway, I've always just grabbed my snout from the bedside table and sparked up. If you do need to run into the next room and grab them then I don't see the big deal, it's not rejection in any shape or form, just really relaxing and good for the wind-down.
Post-coital tabs are the best you'll ever smoke, and when they're then followed up by 40 winks I'd usually be under the illusion that I've died and gone to heaven.
Lesson is, do NOT smoke in bed!
a girl-friend of mine is a smoker (and smokes in her room). Every piece of fabric, be it the sheets the curtain the pillows, everyting smells like this cold, stale smoke. After a year we cleaned her room, and when I wiped off her computer screen I had a BLACK towel. It's such a turn-off, especially right after sex.
Yeah done that. And in the confusion i fell out and landed on a playstation. Was not a good move.
I can't not have a fag after sex. It just chills me out.