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boys:why do u ignore us wen with u're mates?
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can all you guys out there tell me why you are really nice to us girls wen not with your mates, but as soon as you see them or you are with them you ignore us as if we are not there. i would really like to know as it has been happnin' 2 me l8ly and i would like to know y u do it.
please help me.
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please help me.
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on the times when I'm really nice, I get the piss taken out of me by my mates. can't please everyone.
Dunno y it is, just happens, mosta my m8s if they got g/f's or r trying to pull have to ask me not to take the piss outta there girls, n I can do it if I try. But think when ur with m8s u just dont care as much as if ur with jus em
They get totally shit-faced and become simply disgusting. WHY? Is this to show that famous macho thing? Well, it only turns the girls off. Now you know :-)
Sadly in my case it often goes out of control, I'm talking of things like verbal abuse and stuff, so it's kinda upsetting.
I know there are a lot of wankers out there, but please, nice lads, stay cool even if you are with your mates.
[This message has been edited by Anele (edited 22-11-2000).]
this is mostly due to the fact that most of my friends are female
I find them less crude, more intelligent, and more sympathetic when you have problems
they suggest real aswers that help rather than just go out get plastered and get laid which seems to be most blokes answer to everything
I think you sound like a nice guy. I really wish I could get a guy as nice as you.
Love always,
Jessica
I don't do that, if there are nice girls, and also my mates, I try and get everyone on the same buzz. You should try and meet some decent blokes. Are these geezers from ur school? Try meeting blokes you don't go to school with, cos when I was at school, i s'pose i kept my girlfriends seperate from my mates, different buzz if you know what i mean, the lads don't always understand why their masculine-buddy has other commitments.
Anyways, hope it goes A-OK
L8ers
I think that men choose the 'blokey' conversation style because most men (mentally) define their standing not by how a group sees them interacting with women, but how a group sees them interacting with other men. In other words, I think men feel they have to compete and interact with other men socially in order to feel part of their society. And often I think men take their girlfriends attentions and approval for granted in those kinds of situations.
I can't prove any of this obviously, I'm sure someone will disagree with me about this. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
My best m8 n his long term g/f now alwyas laff at when he introduced her to me, cos she thought it was a real big thing n I had just laughed n walked off, not thinking n e thing of it, till when we started talking bout it, n my m8 said she was real upset.
But I had things to do n meeting my m8s bird wernt that important at the time to me but it was to her.