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Following on from Shellfish's post, I've been thinking...
I seem to be one of the few people who just can't start or hold a conversation with someone of the opposite sex if I don't know them (probably because I go to a boys school and I'm more used to talking with them). Normally I can be funny if I know the person because I've got things to talk about but its so different with someone I don't know.
So I'll set a scene and ask for some tips.
Lets say your in a pub with your friend and you have met his girlfriend's friends for the first time and you like one of them. You get drunk enough to find the courage to talk to her and then what???
"Hi I'm ...."
With me it would tail off after that. Probably my fault for being quiet but as we have told shellfish we have to get out there.
Any help would be appreciated
Thanks,
Mr. Happy
I seem to be one of the few people who just can't start or hold a conversation with someone of the opposite sex if I don't know them (probably because I go to a boys school and I'm more used to talking with them). Normally I can be funny if I know the person because I've got things to talk about but its so different with someone I don't know.
So I'll set a scene and ask for some tips.
Lets say your in a pub with your friend and you have met his girlfriend's friends for the first time and you like one of them. You get drunk enough to find the courage to talk to her and then what???
"Hi I'm ...."
With me it would tail off after that. Probably my fault for being quiet but as we have told shellfish we have to get out there.
Any help would be appreciated
Thanks,
Mr. Happy
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hope ive been of some help!
Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.
Unfortunatley its still a problem for me.
So i'd appreciate advice too please <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">.
This only works for me with women I don`t fancy but just don`t think of them as women. Just think of them as people.
It sounds weird and deceptively simple but it does work most of the time.
Plus, I`ve been told I`m a pretty funny guy so that helps to break the proverbial ice.
"Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
It matters not who won or lost, but how you place the blame.
The best way is to be yourself whoever's there. Whether your mate turns up with his bird and her mates, just act like you've known them for ages.
If you go out wanting to pull someone it ain't gonna happen. Go out to have a laugh and possibly get drunk and if you meet someone then so be it.
Going back to "the scene in the pub" by the time you have drunk enough to get the courage to speak to them you should know enough about them to have a chat.
JUST BE YOURSELF
Amen brother Dragon!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Never piss into the wind!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/cool7.gif">
I think its really just getting used to such situations and relaxing. Things should follow from there.
Thanks again,
Mr. Happy <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">