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Do I want a girlfriend?
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It seems to be that modern society places a lot of pressure on teenagers to have relationships. Certainly at my school it seems nearly everyone is trying to get a girlfriend or boyfriend.
But when I think about it, getting a girlfriend doesn't seem to have much appeal to me. I'm not gay or anything, and I have had girlfriends before; I've just never gone out LOOKING for one. One the other side of the coin however, I do sometimes feel left out.
Part of the problem may be that I have little self confidence, but I'm not sure what to do.
But when I think about it, getting a girlfriend doesn't seem to have much appeal to me. I'm not gay or anything, and I have had girlfriends before; I've just never gone out LOOKING for one. One the other side of the coin however, I do sometimes feel left out.
Part of the problem may be that I have little self confidence, but I'm not sure what to do.
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but sometimes, i wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. just for a change. i love my boyf, but temptaion occurs just sometimes. especially when we have a fight, i want to go out and have fun with my friends and just be naughty and not care.
in the end, people are happy in different situations, mayb im too young to be tied down (im 16) maybe i should go out and get laid! i dont really know, either way, ill be happy. u can be happy alone, or with someone. ull always want what u cant have <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Sure bein single is fun, but iv got to the stage where pulling random blokes just doesnt make me happy anymore <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
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i can only be nice to 1 person a day today is not your day today isnt looking good either!
Myself? if you read M'y love interest *sighs*' thread you'll see i madly fancy someone. I don't think you should activly look for some one that would go out with you, but look for someone you'd like to go out with.
Be yourself, baby!
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but ive gota admit there r many times in my life wer im single n glad 2 b as it allow u 2 hav much more freedom n not have 2 worry bout ur actions! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
its not illegal til u get caught :P
I think its partly because i came out of a fairly long-term relationship a couple of months ago, but i love that i can go out when i want and do what i want without being accountable to someone else for my actions.
Its probably different if you have a great relationship and im not knocking relationships cause i know how nice they can be, but i dont think anyone should feel pressured to get a b/f or g/f.
I don't know whether you want a g/f or not, when I was looking I mostly just wanted sex (well, hell, it's true). I don't think you should go out looking for a g/f, most of my past g/f's have come from the most unexpected places. (but not like under a rock or the depths of a mine shaft or anything, I think you know what I mean.....)
You're right though, so much of society is geared up towards people having heterosexual long-term relationships, or "romance" as it is termed. Over-rated crap in my opinion, just find someone you can connect with and then see what happens.....
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if you can't find the perfect girl anywhere then you'll have to show some commitment, love, trust etc which does come with pressure, worry, anxiety etc but if she's right for you it'll be less than with other girls. actually, if she's right for you then it should be MORE cuz you'll love her more...but then again it could be less cuz u know she loves u back as much as u love her...
and now ive confused myself!
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i know EXACTLY how your feeling, but ive just started to make a change for better, please email me if u want to talk more in private, i really think we can help each other out.
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Actually, at the moment I wanna concentrate on my career. I'm starting fresh in college and I can't be arsed with all that romantic stuff. If I were to be in a relationship then it'd be fun, not all serious and emotional.
So with one hand on the wheel
The other out the window
With a smile on my face
My middle finger up...
dont beat yourself up, you and some nice girl will hook up, but cos you love her and she loves you not cos ye wanna get shagged <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
poor GFM
I feel similarly sometimes
but its cos mah gf is so far away
trust her tho <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I know it sounds quick and stupid, but try some crazy music <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
that is really good advice. otherwise you're left feeling unsatisfied and wanting something more substantial. sex doesnt solve any problems at all, especially ones like loneliness or similar.
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When I was at school I tried to get one but couldn't and still haven't despite trying like mad but then I am far from good looking!