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hes ignoring me
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me and my boyfriend had a bit of a falling out, because of me, on friday but we were fine at the end of the night.
he went out last nite i text him to see how he was before he went because i didnt want to interrupt when he was with his friends and he didnt text me back till 2 then iv text him abit today an hes text back twice but now hes not texting back or answering his phone.
its not like him at all and if it wasnt for the fact of things not being right since friday i wouldnt be bothered but i am. dont know what to do
he went out last nite i text him to see how he was before he went because i didnt want to interrupt when he was with his friends and he didnt text me back till 2 then iv text him abit today an hes text back twice but now hes not texting back or answering his phone.
its not like him at all and if it wasnt for the fact of things not being right since friday i wouldnt be bothered but i am. dont know what to do
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I've spent anxious hours in the past wondering what's going on in a bloke's head and why he isn't texting or answering his phone... the solution is to busy yourself with something else and wait for him to get over his hangover or his grouchy mood and contact you. I promise you he will do so and you'll be glad you didn't keep on haranguing him as you'll feel a bit foolish -- I'm not trying to be harsh, just speaking from experience
If you don't hear from him tonight then maybe give him a bell in the morning, we all need a bit of space sometimes and maybe this is one of those times for him. Try not to worry about it sweetheart, I'm sure he's not playing games or anything like that. Just seemingly impossible for women and men to understand one another's mindset when it comes to contact etc, I'm sure he doesn't think you'll be bothered - especially since he HAS been in contact just not as much as you'd like - just chill
just 'cause others haven't treated you well doesn't mean he will too.
Trust the bloke until he gives you a reason not to... how long have you been together by the way?
and is so laid back its untrue, not a jealous bone in his body. been really good for me though. ive become the laid back trusting person i was before i got messed around by other blokes.
do i really come across that needy? and paranoid?
Oh dear. No, that's not what I meant at all. I mean that if you've had a little tiff then he might want a bit of time to cool off and if he was out last night he might be feeling a bit rough too. You know what some people are like the morning (and indeed, day) after the night before - bear with a sore head comes to mind.
Patience is a virtue, don't get yourself worked up over what honestly seems like little to no problem in your relationship.
I think that is jumping to conclusions a little bit.
Maybe he is just angry at what happened and needs a little time to himself to reflect on things.
Guys react differently to us females.
Great advice:rolleyes:
There could be a genuine reason why he hasn't text you back - he could just be busy, ran out of credit or his phone has no battery power.
He could just need a break. Also, as I've found in the past, talking after an argument isn't always a good idea.
Hope you're alright honey
he is NOT ignoring you. You can't believe how often times I returned to my room just to notice I have a missed call.
If you can't reach him for 3 days and he's not calling, then this might be a sign, but he just as well drove/went to some place and left his phone back at home. I am a cripple without my phone, since I don't wear a watch with me, but still manage to forget it home one day or the other.
Just because a guy does not call you all the time does not mean he is ignoring you, especially not if he might have a lot of thoughts going on, because of the fall out.
He might start to ignore you when he returns to his cellphone and sees "49 missed calls".
/edit: since it's wednesday already and he has not give a sign of life of him, disregard aforgoing post. But I doubt it.
we do seem to be drifting apart, like with only seeing each other two times a week (compared to bout 5 or 6) and to be honest it does seem to me that he now prefers to be out with his mates than see me, but i do kinda understand, these things happen after so long together and its hard trying not to get too attached as im going away to uni in september. i guess the honeymoon period is officially over!:p