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They double booked the room. Now the cast and crew of 'Lesbian ninja power fetish 17' will have to share the room with 'I pretend to be a 15 year old girl in chat rooms' anonymous.
ETA: Oh dear, this thread has been derailed a little bit.......
But that would only workif it was a man wanting revenge and he'd been quite good at sex, (so thats me out then)
Not big. Not clever.
sorry, couldn't resist!!
Anyway, I'd be totally fuming, I don't know if i could live witht the fct of never knowing how many copies there are, how many other vids and how many people have seen it. I'd search the room every time we fucked, have to have the lights out and generally always paranoid. I'd also want to kick the shit out of him.
He obviously has fantasised about tapinhg you having sex for a while before he did it, did he ever mention it to you? I know the advice is always never to do anything you don't want to do, but sometimes you need to have a little bit of give and take in a relationship.
I get the feeling you're more pissed off about him filming you naked than you are about the hiding. Which is why I have a lot of sympathy for him.
Bugger, I should go then, right?
shocked you think its ok in ANY circumstance tbh.
If you don't trust him to have kept the film to himself then that's another matter entirely, and you need to sort out the trust in your relationship.
Have to say I'm almost with Kermit on this one.
I don't think its acceptable because you shouldn't be spying in a relationship, but I genuniely don't think that its crime of the century if it was for his own personal viewing pleasure.
If he's gone and put it on a Jumbotron during the football or something then its completely different.
I'd be more concerned about why he did it and less concerned about shouting and feeling betrayed, especially as it was such a long time ago.
I can't see that being the case if it was in his brief case though. I mean why would he need to take it out of the house?
To OP, I don't blame you for being angry, I would be so pissed off if I found out someone had done that to me. I possibly wouldn't be so angry if I had found it hidden away in a cupboard or something at home but why would he be carrying it in his brief case. His brief case is going to be something he takes work with him and it's not like he's going to have a tv to watch it on in his office on his lunch break is it so he obviously has it in there to show people
Things like that have ALWAYS got to be consensual with BOTH people. I havent got anything against people taping themselves having sex or doing whatnot, as long as theyre both game for it.
If he felt she wouldnt like it, so he couldnt tell/ask her, then he just shouldnt have done it full stop.
How old was he when he did it?
He was probably just getting some cheap kicks you know, some people have different sexual urges to others....
I agree with Kermit, you need to think..
A) Is he trustworthy?
Would he show it to anyone else?
If you answer yes and no then I think you're safe....your call though.
TBH I wouldn't be bothered if a bird filmed me nailing her as long as she didn't show it to anyone else because then it would just be weird.
Just consider this - he could take footage of any of internets hottest porn stars, but he chose a video of you.
Unlike nearly any other man, he didn't even seek out other women the one place it's semi-acceptable - porn.
He wanted you, not some other girl, but didn't want to hurt you, or make you feel pressured into anything.
I can't see how you could be so self-concious, he obviously thinks your the bomb. And means it. :razz:
=> Jess
isn't it better that he's whacking one off watching you and him not some random strangers?
eta: to the person who posted above me..do you really think we can read it when you post it in that horrific green?
to those who are interested here is what it says!
To start, ideally he should have told you, but this is a real world. Most likely he didn't because he believed he wouldn't be able to keep the tape.
Just consider this - he could take footage of any of internets hottest porn stars, but he chose a video of you.
Unlike nearly any other man, he didn't even seek out other women the one place it's semi-acceptable - porn.
He wanted you, not some other girl, but didn't want to hurt you, or make you feel pressured into anything.
I can't see how you could be so self-concious, he obviously thinks your the bomb. And means it.
=> Jess
The thought of workmates or family seeing it would cause me a bit of worry. Strangers are not a problem, its easy to be exhibitionist infront of strangers who dont know you or any of your family and friends but if it leaks out with phones, internet etc it can easily spread around to everyone very fast once in the wrong hands. Even if it didnt bother me that much who saw the material, it wouldnt be fair on my parents or grandparents who would probably be deeply shocked and embarressed.
I think its a betrayal of trust and I would find it hard to forgive someone for that.
Not everyone WANTS to have themselves in all their naked glory having sex on camera for anyone who finds the tape to see.
If you consent to it, you take those risks knowingly.
If you didnt consent to it, its fucking horrible, because a tape could easily get into the wrong hands.
:yes: completely agree.
In my books that would be completely betraying me. Like breaking my own personal copyright rule or something. Its my body, therefore *I* decide who and when people see it, by making that tape behind her back he's completely breaking the control over her own body, even if it was only for his own personal use.
:yes:
Its a complete betrayal of trust.