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Oh yes, as to those who respond to requests by asking "how old are you?". What are you thinking? You're potentially putting yourself in trouble there. I have been trained to only accept certain forms of ID. Someone claiming to be 18, or having someone claiming to be a parent come in to verify their age is not a legally recognised form to prove someone's age.
Anyway, I'm fairly flexible. In the past, I've accepted Connexions cards (though that scheme is soon to be scrapped) and British Army membership cards. Thing is, it's my arse that's on the line. I have to be 100% certain that the ID in question is irrefutably genuine. If I'm in any doubt, I have to refuse the sale. Company policies and the law insist on it.
although i try to take it as a compliment because i won't be needing botox anytime soon i do still feel slightly embarrassed.
Then I came to England and got ID'ed when buying alcohol and stuff like that in supermarkets and was actually quite offended.
i didnt think they were allowed to lie? cos its entrapment or something...is that the right word? i got told that if you challenge them they will just walk away
of course you can't accept a library card as ID! how easy would it be to fake a library card! its passport, driving licence or pass holagram cos everything else can be faked so easily. all my friends had connextions cards with the wrong DOB on in high school. if you sometimes get asked for ID then take some with you when you go out, its not hard
why on earth would you be offended?
Cause I was made to feel as if I was a little kid trying to buy alcohol when I shouldn't.
they obviously didn't think you looked old enough. not their fault, is it?
"Can you confirm your date of birth?"
"15/07/88"
"Yeah that's what it says here... I'm sorry, I can't serve you til you're 18."
".... Eh? I'm sorry?"
"I can't serve you."
".... I'm 18 years old...."
"I'm sorry sir, I can't serve you without valid proof of that."
"THAT IS VALID PROOF!"
In the end we had to go Tesco. I couldn't stop laughing. I know deep down that it's really terrible, but it's amusing... my boyfriend doesn't look 18 in the slightest... he definetly doesn't look old enough to have a drivers licence even....
Sorry, as I said I've never been ID'ed outside clubs and then I come to England and start getting ID'ed. It really isn't worth picking a fight over.
i wasn't picking a fight!
i just think it's unfair to say the cashier made you look like you were trying to buy alcohol underage that's all.
Question though: for those of you that work in bars etc, do you accept Connexions cards usually? Because I don't have a driver's license and I doubt my stepdad will let me take my passport out with me...and if you don't, do you accept photocopies of passports?
I didn't drag the cashier into it once, just stating a general opinion like others state that they feel flattered.
passport or driving licence covers your own back. apart from anything its company policy in most places and if you get caught by a manager it'll be a major bollocking, possibly a diciplinary and even dismissal if you do it a lot and your company is really strict. its just not worth the hassle
My ex's mum works at Asda, and I remember her saying that she IDs absolutely everyone, just because it's her arse on the line. She used to get some right arsey customers, so she'd just tell them to go through another checkout if they weren't happy. I remember her telling me about some customer that thought a wedding ring was good enough proof that she was over 18.
Customer: *comes to the till with an 8-pack of Fosters*
K: Mate, if you wanna buy those, I'll have to see some ID.
Customer: But it's my first day at Haven. It's my first night and I need to have some alcohol. Go on, go easy on me. I'll show you ID tomorrow.
Danny: *staring on incredulously at this bloke*
K: I don't care if it's your first or last day. Unless you show me some ID, you're not having those Fosters.
Customer: *stamps off like a six-year old who hasn't got his sweets*
That's that one out of the way and in our refusals book. Gripping reading, that...