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My partner did a secret porn film of us!
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Whilst trying to find some info in my partners brief case, I saw a video tape - so there's me thinking :chin: it was a typical porn video and just for for the sake of it and a bit of a giggle I had to have a peek of what was on the tape!
As soon as the tape started rolling, I stared in disbelief :eek: - yes I was right, it was a porn movie - but it was US two having sex :shocking: :impissed: !!!! He had secretely hidden his camcorder (3 years ago) whilst we were having sex and he never even told me about it! I couldn't believe he had kept it quiet for such a long time and with him knowing I'm paranoid of my body and I hate being filmed made me even more angry! I mean what's the whole point of it? cause it ain't like we hardly see each other!????
So when he came home, I couldn't help myself from confronting him. He began to deny it, but as soon as I told him I had seen the tape he went quiet - and then started making out it was my fault. So yes, it was my fault for snooping around and if I hadn't been so flippin nosey in the first place this never would have happened, but if he would have been honest with me from the beginning I wouldn't be so angry!
If someone had done this to you, how would you feel? I don't know how to react - do you think I'm being a bit over the top about the whole issue or would you feel the same?
Can you please give me your opinion before I go mad !!!
As soon as the tape started rolling, I stared in disbelief :eek: - yes I was right, it was a porn movie - but it was US two having sex :shocking: :impissed: !!!! He had secretely hidden his camcorder (3 years ago) whilst we were having sex and he never even told me about it! I couldn't believe he had kept it quiet for such a long time and with him knowing I'm paranoid of my body and I hate being filmed made me even more angry! I mean what's the whole point of it? cause it ain't like we hardly see each other!????
So when he came home, I couldn't help myself from confronting him. He began to deny it, but as soon as I told him I had seen the tape he went quiet - and then started making out it was my fault. So yes, it was my fault for snooping around and if I hadn't been so flippin nosey in the first place this never would have happened, but if he would have been honest with me from the beginning I wouldn't be so angry!
If someone had done this to you, how would you feel? I don't know how to react - do you think I'm being a bit over the top about the whole issue or would you feel the same?
Can you please give me your opinion before I go mad !!!
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I definitely don't think you're overreacting about this. What was his excuse for filming you?
He had no right to fimlk you without asking first.
I'm angry for you :mad:
thats out of order, big time. id go mental.
am i being slow? i dont get it lol
Homemade porn should be agreed upon...then you can both play up for the cameras!
Seriously, I agree. It's a pretty low thing to do. Sex is a very intimate thing for quite a lot of people, particularly in a relationship, which requires a lot of trust. To discover your partner recorded you having sex without letting you know is bound to damage that trust.
It would take a lot to get my trust back and I'd still be paranoid as hell if I slept with them again.
I'd also be freaked out as to why a 3 year old tape of us having sex was in their bag/briefcase. Well, less freaked, more curious as to why they've been carting it around with them.......