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Heya Guys, I want your opionion!
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Heya Guys,
Me and my boyfriend hav been together nearly 2 years now.
& hes recently popped the question! *Will you marry me?*!
And my answer is YES! Im 16 but 17 in 5 months, But dya think im to young?
We're really in love so what dya think ?
Give your opionions PLEASE!
Love *Sweet_Cheeks*
xxxxxxx
Me and my boyfriend hav been together nearly 2 years now.
& hes recently popped the question! *Will you marry me?*!
And my answer is YES! Im 16 but 17 in 5 months, But dya think im to young?
We're really in love so what dya think ?
Give your opionions PLEASE!
Love *Sweet_Cheeks*
xxxxxxx
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Yeah thanks thts good advice!
but they're missing out on so much stuff relationship wise, aren't they?
one of my friends recently got engaged at 16 and it seemed more of a 'locking' the relationship cause my friend has had her fair share of guys, and when she gets bored shes straight with another guy. So it seemed like he was 'claiming' her. I might be wrong but they'd only been together 3 months and hardly knew each other. I just didn't see the need.
When you don't really know what direction both of your lives are going to take, then I think it can actually be detrimental to get engaged. You may then stop doing things that you want to do with your life, because you always have to consider the other person.
I also think it's sometimes used, particularly among young people, as a way of strengthening the relationship, if you get what I mean. As in the person will be more likely to stay with them, and less likely to cheat if they're engaged rather than just together. When in reality, if the relationship isn't strong enough in the first place, then no title you give it will make any difference. Not saying this is what's going on here at all, just a thought.
Yes I do think you're both too young.
look at this way do you look back and think you were different at age 14?
cos at 18 you'll look back and think what you were like at 16 and realise how much you changed in 2 years
Also biologically your brain isn't fully developted yet at age 16, the connections in your brain are sill networking and making new connections all the time so the way your brain works now isn't the way it wil work in 2 years time.
You might for instance like chocolate icecream to day and in two years hate it.
I for one never drunk tea and always hated olives, now I drink tea 1 to 3 times a day and love olives, you brain changes.
So your taste in men might change as well in 2 years time.
I know my bf wanted to propose but i told him no - i don't need a ring on my finger to prove our relationship.
btw...have you told parents/family?
exactly. why rush things. if it's meant to be then he can ask you again when you're older and more financially able to be able to actually afford to get married. also you're only young, you'll change.
i also dont see the point when people get engaged who dont have any intentions of getting married, ive had friends who have got engaged and dont even know when they want to get married..whats the point...a relationship shouldnt need a ring to prove how strong it is.
:yes: wise words from SCC. Why have a look at our article Ready or Not which might help you to decide whether or not you are making th right decision. I hope things work out for you
Thats wat im going ta do i dnt wanna get married til im 21 n btw mi bf isnt the same age as me hes older!
Good plan. Well, personally I'm not a fan of long engagements, but they're a lot less final than a marriage. Waiting til you're 21 is a good idea.
21 is still young, in the scheme of things, but I'd say if you're still with this guy then then you're onto a winner
Im 16 and 17 in just under 2 months ( ) and personally i couldnt see myself gettin married that thought scares me - but thats my opinion! and also im not in a long term relationship. But i have seen relationships last longer then urs has been so far, and they have split up because they got bored of each other - so justbecause you have spent 2 years of your life with him, then it doesnt mean you can spend the rest of your life with him.
However - i dont know you of your boyfriend so this is my opinion, if you feel yo can do it then go for it!! Though i do recommend a long engagement in that case!
Not a bad thing?!! ermm look at her offspring!
How rude! Those are the kind of comments you can keep well and truly to yourself.
My mums friend got married at 19 and they've been married nearly 25 years. It just depends, sometimes you're luckily enough to find the one straight away, but it seems most of the time you're not. Or you do but don't realise.
I got engaged at 17 (she was 16 nearly 17) we had been together just short of a year when she said she wanted to get engaged after a lot of thought i went ahead with it. We were infatuated with eachother and spent most of our free time together and at first it felt like the right thing to do. After a year or so however things started to change I felt suffocated and isolated from my friends. I was looking at other girls, even ones who really weren't nearly as attractive as her, I had become sick of her but didn't want to admit it. I still cared for her very deeply but the spark was gone and I didn't really even want to sleep with her anymore.
One night when i went out with my mates i ended up sleeping with another girl, the next day i felt awful and was sick with guilt. I eventually confessed to my gf who was devastated, however she forgave me and i made a big effort to gain back her trust, things were fine for a few months until she suddenly decided to end things (she had met someone else at uni) This time I was devastated and felt very alone as my neglected friends although supportive i could tell they knew I had been silly and had got too serious too young. We got back together a few times but it never felt right and I realised I had to end it completely. Things are now very bitter between us and we dont talk.
If you do decide to continue to be engaged make sure you don't neglect your friends because they are more important at this stage of your life than a bf.
Hey sweetcheeks, and congratulations on making your relationship with this guy work for two years. That's great.
However, when I look back on the men of my past (I'm almost 24 years old and still single), I can now see why I was attracted to some of them, and in most cases, I thank my lucky stars that it didn't work out. Why? Because I know a lot more about what I want from life, and I have a better picture of who I am today.
What kind of goals do you have? What kind of career to you want? Do you want to have a bunch of kids, or none at all? Do you want to travel the world, or live in the same city until you die? These might seem like easy questions, but at 17, you're just beginning to find these answers I'm sure.
Here's an easy example of how this might be a problem....you might decide that you want to stay living where you are, but your man may decide that he wants to move several hours away, or maybe even to a different country. You both need time to make the transition from being teenagers to independent adults. It would be wonderful for both of you to move out of your parents home, and you each could get your own place to live in, that way you can really decide how you want to live your life.
As young girls, we grow up dreaming about the day to become a bride, and how to have a beautiful wedding, but what really matters is how to have a beautiful MARRIAGE. A wedding lasts for a day; a marriage lasts for a lifetime. See the difference?
So unless you've been diagnosed as being terminally ill, and you know you're going to die soon, then definitely wait on marriage. You may have found the man to spend your entire life with, but timing is more important than some people realise. Figure out what career you want and get some independence first before you permanently join your life with someone else. Don't rush into it.
Good luck!
Thanks. You asked a lot of questions and heres the answers to them, My goals are to complete all NVQ Levels 1,2 & 3 in hairdressing the reason for this is because i wanna be a hairdresser. I want one or two kids. Yes, i do want to travel the world some day. Well, my bf is much older than me hes in his 20's and we're both decided tht we wanna spend the rest of our lives together. and i wanna get married when im around 21.
Im also currently looking for a job and ive got a interview on friday at 3.30pm for a weekend job so fingers crossed. i also start my college course in september.
love sweet_cheeks xx
there is nothing wrong to waiting till you're a bit older if thats what you want.
but, tbh, if he is the right guy there is absolutly no reason at all if you want to be together and get married why you shouldn't.
i don't see why people frown on people of a young age knowing their own mind.
if it is what you want. go for it. be happy.