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why is this happening?
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as embrassing as this sounds.. its also annoying.
my girlfriend and i have alerday had sex alot of times but for some reason now and then i would get an erection but it will go away like 20 seconds later or when were about to have sex. now i dont know why this is happening. and i would really like to know if this is normal or not. i was also thinking... does excerising have anything to do with this? like if i excerise would that help out at all? i find this really annoying cause i want to have sex with her and shes thinking the reason this is happening is beacuse of her and that shes not good enough. which is NOT the case what so ever. i love her and shes beautiful. i just want some help.
thank you
my girlfriend and i have alerday had sex alot of times but for some reason now and then i would get an erection but it will go away like 20 seconds later or when were about to have sex. now i dont know why this is happening. and i would really like to know if this is normal or not. i was also thinking... does excerising have anything to do with this? like if i excerise would that help out at all? i find this really annoying cause i want to have sex with her and shes thinking the reason this is happening is beacuse of her and that shes not good enough. which is NOT the case what so ever. i love her and shes beautiful. i just want some help.
thank you
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im like really not thinking about anything besides her.
Maybe thats why then, if you're putting too much pressure on yourself and thinking about it too much. More than likely you're expecting it to happen now, so thats adding even more pressure.
and i kinda lied... i sometimes think about if im gonna get an erection or not.. which probley makes everything alot more worse and puts more pressure on me.
but i dont know how to stop thinking about it
What about just having fun with your girlfriend, without thinking that the foreplay is always going to lead to sex. Just enjoy being with her. Maybe concetrate on making it good for her and forget about yourself for a bit?
Many men suffer with this problem at some point in their lives, its completely normal. Your not perfect its how you deal with it thats important, i always found with boyfriends in the past that when they make a deal of it and worry about it, it then happened again, so they worried about it more - a vicious circle.
Try not to worry about it, laugh it off with your girlfriend make a joke or concentrate on something else. Our article on reasons why things go wrong might be helpful to you.
Hope this helps
thanks alot for the help everyone i would try to do what you people said.
but if anyone else have any other ideas that can help me out
please post.
thank you
Things I would suggest? Just don't do anything that would make it less likely to happen, like masturbating or drinking alcohol. And like remotebleeper said, just have fun with your girlfriend in the meantime without the pressure, and it should happen naturally.
And you mentioned exercising. What do you mean? Exercising in general should be beneficial. Obviously if you've exercised to the point that you have no energy and you try to do it straight after, then you're gonna have a problem, but just in general, there's no link.
try not to worry, don't panic, it will fix it self in due course, just make sure your gf knows it's not her, but let her know you need her support
just another question
once you guys got over the stress did this fix your problem?
and how did you guys overcome your stress?
if you can wank and climax then you're fine it must be nerves, stress, or medical problems like tight foreskin.