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Dealing with temptation
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Hello all,
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and we're really in love/sex is still good/really close friends etc so its all going well. Problem is recently I've been finding myself becoming attracted to one of my close male friends. I'd never cheat on my boyfriend and I don't want to leave him (plus there's no suggestion this friends even likes me in that way) so I'm not contemplating acting on it but I still can't help thinking about him. I can't avoid him because we're at 6th form together and have the same group of friends.
How can I force myself to get over it?
Any help would be great!
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and we're really in love/sex is still good/really close friends etc so its all going well. Problem is recently I've been finding myself becoming attracted to one of my close male friends. I'd never cheat on my boyfriend and I don't want to leave him (plus there's no suggestion this friends even likes me in that way) so I'm not contemplating acting on it but I still can't help thinking about him. I can't avoid him because we're at 6th form together and have the same group of friends.
How can I force myself to get over it?
Any help would be great!
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Otherwise, try and consider why you feel this way. All of us look at what is in the window but we remember not to touch. If you feel that your present boyfriend does not do it for you then it is only fair that you let him go .. in spite of the good sex and mutual friends. You will only hurt him more if you string him along for longer than is neccessary.
However, remember that the grass is not always greener and while you have a physical attraction to this guy, he is really an unknown quantity - and you may find that he is really not up to scratch in other areas.
Im just so confused
i'm sure though that if you admitted to your bf you ahd these feelings but that they were only feelings of a crush... he's not going to dump you for it.
That is v. true. When we fancy someone but don't know them that well, we tend to fill in the gaps with how we'd most like them to be.
You have sorta answered your own question - if things are 'too complicated' to finish with him, then there is nothing you can do, is there? You have to live with the complications or find a way to get out.
It means tough shit you made ya choice when you got with him, end of!