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Missing Element?
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Heya,
Ive met up with someone twice who I fancy and am starting to like more and more gradually. However, I think there may be an element missing. When we are out and about together the touchy feely thing seems not to exist! I know we have only just started seeing eachother, but Ive been used to having this with previous people. Do you think it may come soon naturally? Or are we too similar in nature that neither of us makes a move or a bit platonic? Thinking next time I meet them I will be more touchy feely when out and see how they react. What do you reckon?
Ive met up with someone twice who I fancy and am starting to like more and more gradually. However, I think there may be an element missing. When we are out and about together the touchy feely thing seems not to exist! I know we have only just started seeing eachother, but Ive been used to having this with previous people. Do you think it may come soon naturally? Or are we too similar in nature that neither of us makes a move or a bit platonic? Thinking next time I meet them I will be more touchy feely when out and see how they react. What do you reckon?
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You cant fake that.
Is that what you mean?
Well there is chemistry in the bedroom but its just there are no random displays of affection etc when out. I mean its just casual at the moment, but Im just a bit worried. I mean maybe we are just too busy chatting or both of us are a little shy perhaps or are giving eachother mixed signals? I mean we have just met so maybe I shouldnt worry and it will just fall into place.
Yeah could be!
Erm...well its a girl for starters. Thing is I dont want to be all over them and annoy them either! Its hard when you havnt known someone long!
Nah, its not like shes shielding herself...maybe shes unsure of what I want?
Yeah thats what I was thinking...Ill try something next time subtley and see what reaction I get!
Hehe just find the right moment I guess!
yeah sounds about right.
Hi there,
Welcome to TheSite
We have an article on public displays of affection which you might interesting. You say you might just try touching your partner next time you're out which may well work out, but it may be that they feel quite shy about it, or actually don't like the idea at all -so you might find it helps to talk to them about some of the issues in the article to gauge their reaction to pdas, rather than just leaping in there. I know it doesn't sound like the most romantic solution, but If you do decide to talk about it you may just find your new squeeze is desperate for you to kiss/touch them in public. Whatever the outcome, communication is often a good way forward - good luck