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ANSWER NOW PLEASE!!! i need your help

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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Right my ex g/f, best mate, has dumped me in some of her trouble. see she used to stay round mine when we were going out and does occasionally now. but thing is she told her mum last nite she was satying round mine, for some reason her mum foned our house and my dad told her she was not here. i didnt even know that she had told her mum she was staying here.well she in faxct went to this other blokes house and i assume slept with him, even though she tells me she dont like him more than a mate. but i think its cos she is scared she'll lose him if she didnt sleep with him as he has met her tiwce and keeps on telling her he loves her like no other man etc etc, and that he wants to make love to her and he aint had sex in a year, so i guess she gave it to him. but thing is she tx me asking if im not talking to her and said sorry for what she has done, i duno if i should tx her back or what, shes done this once before and said sorry back then, but then again i dont wana lose her cos i still care for her and love her even though i am over her. what should i do? tx her back or ignore her?
Please help! i need all answers by 10PM tonight pls, when i will decide what to do!
L-I-L

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lose her. She sounds like a slag.
    Cos i'm thinking about a brand new hope, one i've never known, and where it goes, cos now I know it's all that wanted.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lose her dude, u can text her and tell her to g.t.h. or u can ignore her. shes using u.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think shes a bit confused after her love of her life b/f dumped her before she went out with me, shes never got over him. but what should i do? pls help!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey l-i-l

    we already told u to lose this girl <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    she don't sound like she's doing u any favours, i honestly think u'd be better off without her.

    i know it's hard letting go of someone you care about so much, but sometimes it just has to be done. This girl is causing u so much pain, stringing you along and not letting you move on with your life.

    It's time to cut the cord and let go. At first you'll be like, this is scary, i want her back, because what u have with her is familiar and secure, but in the long run, i promise you it will be worth it. You will come out a better person and be happier and find another to lover and who also might love you back. If this girllovedyou, she would be with oyu. Let her go man, she's not worth it.
    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i did tx her telling her how i felt how stupid she was etc and she just tx back saying sorry, i'll see if she calls monday like she said she would, doubt she will. ive already got a new person who can love me so it aint about that anymore, im over her, moved on, its just some silly things she does, she dont think at all and is becoming a slapper.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Lonely-in-life:
    well i did tx her telling her how i felt how stupid she was etc and she just tx back saying sorry, i'll see if she calls monday like she said she would, doubt she will. ive already got a new person who can love me so it aint about that anymore, im over her, moved on, its just some silly things she does, she dont think at all and is becoming a slapper.

    Nice to see you moving on and getting your life in order. Good luck with your new love.

    I don't live to work, I work to live and I live at the weekends. I'm the last of the big time drinkers.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Lonely-in-life:
    ive already got a new person who can love me so it aint about that anymore, im over her, moved on, its just some silly things she does, she dont think at all and is becoming a slapper.

    good luck, i hope you find happiness with your new girl <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    and don't worry if she don't contact u. Just leave it coz she ain't worth it.

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey at least things are looking up for you! I am sure things will sort itself out, they normally do! and Im glad to see you are a bit happier for a change, now I can officially rule the depression stakes!!!
    dont you think that people would have taken Ghandi more seriously if he didn't have the first name 'Mahatma'... just a thought.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well you can rule it if you like, but i dont wants you to. common email me and let me cheer u up, or i'll get their first and see if ur alright m8 hee hee. well that girl called me and was crying saying shes sorry, she did cheer up a bit, but thing is she dont think and once she has done something she regrets it, her family hate her at the mo and dont wana see her cos of what she has done. oh well, we'll see how things go, i'll let her call me from now on, but my g/f's cool. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; me happy
    L-I-L
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You and yr ex do seem pretty close.I think you should help her.as u said she seems to have been pressured by her current boyfriend and that aint a good feeling-pressure.
    I dont think shes using you a bad way/she aint taking you for granted that much.she trusts you as her friend to help her out.she obviously v sorry,she knows what she has done-she made the independent move and said sorry to you first.

    *be there for her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    um he aint her b/f. you ever read the purple ronnie posters? like one says what a bloke means when he says i love you, it means i want sex. and this bloke has been doing that to her, shes known him a few months and he a bit older than her.and hes like ive fallen in love with you, maybe in 6 months we can start living together, i want you, i love you more than nay other bloke. shes told him to F off many times but he just dont get the hint and if she annoys him and hates her she gets upset cos she likes the attention so shes sleeping with all these blokes cos she scared they wont talk to her if she dont i think. i really wana punch his face in as he is only after sex, one tx message he sent her read, i want sex with you, im joking if it'll hurt or up[set you, but i aint joking if you want it. so we all know what he wants except her.i really wana tx him or email him telling him to back off, but i duno if itd be right. i wana be there for her but its real hard, u tell her something and its in one ear and out the other if she dont like it. or im annoying cos i get worried about her and she gets fed up with me. so i duno wot to do, she does get sorry its just she dont think before hand that upsets me, i wana b there for her but duno wot to do or how to do it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Lonely-in-life:
    i really wana tx him or email him telling him to back off, but i duno if itd be right. i wana be there for her but its real hard, u tell her something and its in one ear and out the other if she dont like it.

    it's not ur place to tell him where to go. if u did it wud probably just make things worse for you. It's her problem i know u care about her, but if she's too thick to see what he's doing and only believes what she wants to believe then you can't help her, so let her go!
    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    talk to her about it and try to wake her up,she'll probably,most likely go into moods but deep down she knows what she's doing is wrong but she just cant let go.dont leave her.be there when she needs you.dont call the bloke though-bad move,she'll turn away from you then.dont be pushy,just encourage her to think what she is doing,make her say what she's doing,dont question her motives.just ask like 'hows it going between you and him?'
    how exactly do you feel?
    dont question threateningly,just lead her to do the talking,dont always look really worried or she will find you annoying,just subtly.
    i really dont think you should leave her,as i said shes a friend and she values u a sa friend from what i hear,ok so shes used u but her motive is yr her friend and thats what friends are for and she went about it the wrong way and she seemed truly sorry.

    good luck
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok l-i-l if you want to email me, do it at dudbrook@yahoo.co.uk I just havent been able to get on mmuch recently thats all ok?
    dont you think that people would have taken Ghandi more seriously if he didn't have the first name 'Mahatma'... just a thought.
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