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Jealous of a friend!
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I have this horrid sick in the stomach feeling and it wont go away. I feel like a bitch about it, so rather than be mardy with my friend I thought I'd post on here.
Has anyone else ever been really jealous of a friend?
One of my best mates has just bought a really nice flat and is dating a really great guy, her life is just so perfect and I feel so jealous. Its awful, I'm happy for her, and glad she's doing so well but I'm gutted for myself because in the last few weeks things have gone crappy for me.
Basically I'm jealous,a horrible emotion and because I'm jealous I feel rotten! I'm a bitch and being very selfish. Have any of you felt jealous of your mates and at the same time felt happy that they are happy? If you get what I mean..
Has anyone else ever been really jealous of a friend?
One of my best mates has just bought a really nice flat and is dating a really great guy, her life is just so perfect and I feel so jealous. Its awful, I'm happy for her, and glad she's doing so well but I'm gutted for myself because in the last few weeks things have gone crappy for me.
Basically I'm jealous,a horrible emotion and because I'm jealous I feel rotten! I'm a bitch and being very selfish. Have any of you felt jealous of your mates and at the same time felt happy that they are happy? If you get what I mean..
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it can be kind of annoying.
But I do have one friend whose life is perfect, I'm jealous as hell of her but it's never been an issue because I always tell her about it (and how I hope it all goes down the tubes for her, but then I'm joking... kind of). I would say "concentrate on good things in your life" but if things are crappy of late then that probably won't work. Things probably just seem so good for her because they're not great for you and it's all magnified, soon it'll even out and you'll be glad you didn't use the voodoo dolls I'm going to send you because karma is one helluva bitch. So the obvious thing is to find her flaw and make it into a huge big deal to make yourself feel wonderful... is it possible she has webbed feet? Hmm.
In seriousness, we all feel jealous and we all have the peaks and troughs in life. I'm sure she's had shit times when she's wished she was you... anyone else... that the ground would swallow her whole...or similar. You'll be back on top and jealousy-free soon, I'm sure of it
But yeah, I do sometimes. Some people I just automatically don't like cause they're too pretty or something. Of course, I just pretend I don't like them.
Anywho, yeah, it happens. And it sucks. But ya know, there's probably someone out there who's looking at your life and thinking, "Wow..."
:yippe:
Stuff like that gets to me especially! When I was in a LDR it kinda got to me all the time, watching my friends being with their boyfriends all the time. But when I got to be with him we more than made up for it!
I get proper upset when I feel threatened by somebody or a situation and I feel like I could lose a bond I've made, but I wouldn't say jealousy comes into it at all really.
He's also just bought a house, has a great job and a delightful 3 year old daughter.
Another mate of mine is in a long term relationship with a fabulous girl, she is great to get on with. He's really fallen on his bloody feet there as well.
It's normal to feel jealousy I think, least I hope so because I do!
My best friend earns more than me, has her own home with nice boyfriend and 2 kids. However, she's constantly tired and doesn't have the freedom or disposable income to do what she wants the way I do. I sometimes feel envious of her as she has a nice settled family life but I'm hoping that will be in the future for me. She's told me she's sometimes envious of me so it's swings and roundabouts.