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Jealousy Of Sexual Pasts?
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Ok, i have been with a girl for 3 months now but i found out she been with a few people i found out about and it makes me sick to my stomach cause it makes me feel like saying "why the hell did u do that for" i get worked up about it but i love her with all my heart and really wouldnt want anyone else but its driving me nuts. what do i do about this??
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Also, stop being so jealous, it's pointless and ugly. She's with YOU now so be happy she chose you :yes:
Ilora x
she wouldn't be with you if she didnt want to be.
my boyfriend has been with 83 people, and we have a great relationship.....
good god!!
(he must be good )
its not my position to judge the decisions someone has made before i met them, same as i wouldnt want them to about me.
youve just got to try and not let it bother you. Its not like you can do anything about it, and if you really like the person/love them, then you have to concentrate on that. Peoples pasts make them who they are - good or bad. Itd be lovely and romantic of course if you fell in love with someone and neither of you had been touched by anyone else etc etc, but in this day and age, that rarely happens. Everyones got a few skeletons in their closet and most people have the odd encounter they regret. Its just one of those things thats out of your control, and to be honest, its not really any of your business either.
It most likely wouldnt be any different with any other girl either as most people have a past.
Try and embrace the fact that any previous relationships and encounters have made her who she is, and put her in your path, given you the opportunity to have this relationship with her! Don't feel threatened by the past because that's all it is, you're present and will be her future (or at least you will be if you don't freak out about this) .