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Lap Dancing

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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Ladies, would you ever take your BF to a lap dancing place (or have you before)?

Guys, you ever been taken?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nope never been taken by any of my partner or even went alone...

    Otheriwse sounds cool for your partner to offer such, but I am not sure I'll be up for it or enjoy it... Just imagine if your partner has to choose and bring you an ugly chick... yuk...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wouldn't mind my bf going to watch girls pole dance but I think I would feel hurt if he went so far as to have a lap dance. I'd considering going with him to a pole dancing club but it would be a look don't touch policy from me I'm afraid and theres no way I'd happy with a girl "dancing" all over his lap!!!

    All hypothetical since I am single right now.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Personally, I couldn't do that for my boyfriend. I have self esteem issues. It would really upset me to see him drooling over another girl. I'm very insecure though. If my boyfriend was to go to a lap dancing club, it would have to be with his friends, not me.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nihilisticmadman wrote:
    Just imagine if your partner has to choose and bring you an ugly chick... yuk...

    You don't get many ugly chicks in there. How would they make money? :lol:

    O.k. not lap dancing, no touching but a pole dance for your BF in front of you?

    You'd be amazed how many women do actually go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tp023 wrote:
    You don't get many ugly chicks in there. How would they make money? :lol:

    O.k. not lap dancing, no touching but a pole dance for your BF in front of you?

    well been to a strip club once and frankly the girl that was stripping was so ugly I finished my drink quickly and left before she was even finished...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tp023 wrote:
    You don't get many ugly chicks in there. How would they make money? :lol:

    Because they are jiggling their naked breasts around maybe?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tp023 wrote:
    You don't get many ugly chicks in there. How would they make money? :lol:

    O.k. not lap dancing, no touching but a pole dance for your BF in front of you?


    Not if it was just for my bf, if it was everyone in the room, fine. I see that as the same as him watching porn in his living room which I'd be fine with.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    remotebleeper wrote:
    Because they are jiggling their naked breasts around maybe?

    O.k. more up market lapping places (if you can say that)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    remotebleeper wrote:
    Not if it was just for my bf, if it was everyone in the room, fine. I see that as the same as him watching porn in his living room which I'd be fine with.

    O.k. so you'd go into the main room of a club (bar/lounge area with all the other people) and watch the pole dance show. How do you think he'd react if you suggested taking him?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tp023 wrote:
    O.k. so you'd go into the main room of a club (bar/lounge area with all the other people) and watch the pole dance show. How do you think he'd react if you suggested taking him?

    Well I'll have to say my most recent guy probably would have been excited about telling his mates that I had suggested something so kinky but in reality I don't think he would have actually gone into the club with me. I think he would have thought it was disrespectful to me even though I had suggested it. He never wanted me to watch his porn with him either.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    remotebleeper wrote:
    He never wanted me to watch his porn with him either.

    Why?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tp023 wrote:
    Why?

    I don't know, he just didn't like me seeing it. He didn't want me to disrespect me, he actually said he would be willing to throw his mags out if i didn't want them in his flat. Maybe his ex was a bit weird about it. :confused:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kinda strange.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tp023 wrote:
    Kinda strange. How did he handle sex toys? I thought it was great using them on my ex.

    I dunno didn't get that far.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My mates once got me a stripper at a party a few years back, she gave me a lap dance, was hilarious.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've never gone with my current one, but a while ago he was going out for a bachalor party so I gave him a bunch of $1 for the strippers panties.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd love to go to a lap dancing club, just to see what it was like. Does that make me weird?! When my ex fella went, I was gutted that I didn't go. When I went to Amsterdam, I went to all the sex shows with the lads even though I was the only girl.

    It's all in the name of fun, isn't it?!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok, I haven't read this all the way through, but I would and unfortunately have never found a guy who found this to be comfortable. Think it would be a fun thing to do and educational also!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think I would go with him, too keep and eye on him. No lap dances though. And if I started getting uncomfortable, beacause of esteem issues or him drooling or whatever, we'd leave.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tp023 wrote:
    O.k. so you'd go into the main room of a club (bar/lounge area with all the other people) and watch the pole dance show. How do you think he'd react if you suggested taking him?
    I expect he`d be well up for it, although its unlikely to happen :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    SuzyCreamcheese wrote:
    I expect he`d be well up for it, although its unlikely to happen :)

    No I wouldn't... I would go cos you want to... but been in one once and don't want to go again... was just curious how it looks in there... and it was shite...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Never taken him in one. Don't think he's been in one in the past, before he met me.

    I wouldn't be able to deal with him going to one, I, too, am very insecure, and would question him why I wasn't enough etc.

    I would maybe go in one in the future, maybe when I deal with my insecurities I'll take him too, but in the mean time, it's very much a strict no.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Meh, lap dancing places have no appeal to me. That might be because I went to uni with a guy who was obsessed with them, to the point of begging us in tears to go. Creepy as fuck. Can't look at one of the places without picturing him and shuddering.

    I'd rather stay home, save my money and have the girlfriend give me a lap dance :o
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think your girlfriend would have to be pretty secure about herself to let a girl dance all over you. I know some girls would feel they are 2nd best but its probably just a reassurance thing!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd let him go if he wanted, no big deal. Wouldn't want to tag along though. :no:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've taken male friends to a lap dancing place before. Found it pretty overrated.

    I wouldn't take my boyfriend, purely because I could put on a better show myself, and he'd be allowed to touch. If I wanted him to see a performance, I'd much rather take him somewhere more burlesque and pleasing to the eye.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Babyshambler wrote:
    I'd love to go to a lap dancing club, just to see what it was like. Does that make me weird?!
    no! my friend and her cousin went to a lapdancing club when they were on holiday and her cousin paid for a private lapdance. as far as i know shes straight, she just thought it would be a laugh.

    i'm going to suggest it to my friends when im back in manchester because i bet they'd be up for it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lipsy wrote:
    I’m going to suggest it to my friends when I’m back in Manchester because I bet they'd be up for it.

    Don’t do it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lipsy wrote:
    no! my friend and her cousin went to a lapdancing club when they were on holiday and her cousin paid for a private lapdance. as far as i know shes straight, she just thought it would be a laugh.

    i'm going to suggest it to my friends when im back in manchester because i bet they'd be up for it.

    See, my girlie mates would sooooo not be up for it. They're not open minded enough. I mean, once we were discussing sex and a few of us said we liked doggy style, and my best friend was convinced we meant anal sex. Weirdo. That's why I couldn't take them to a lap dancing club, haha.

    I think I'd like to pay for a dance too, just to see what it's like...!
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