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No Physical Relationship
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my girlfriend pretty much hates it if i try to show her any affection whatsoever which i don't like! so this means even a little kiss she wont let me give her one but dont worry, i can still giv her a hug! :eek2: :eek2: :eek2: :eek2: whats going on?! is this really normal?
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How old are you guys?
may be she is scared of getting close to anyone?
may be...
the only way you are going to understand what is going on with her is to talk to her about it.
if you are having a sexual relationship then there could be many reasons ranging from some kind of sexual/relationship trauma to just a general 'tough' persona.
you need to talk to her. Show her you care and try to forget the fact that you are a sexual human being with needs. sometimes communication needs to come before your sexual/romantic needs
If she's a shy girl anyway, then she might be just that - shy. If she's a bit inexperienced, then it might take her a while to get used to it, even in private. Otherwise, if it's early on in your relationship, then she might not want everyone to know straight away, until she's more sure herself.
I say back off. She could be worried that when you're getting all kissy with her you're expecting it to turn to sex. How about trying just a non threatening peck on the cheek a few times. I know it must be really frustrating for you but pressure from you will make it worse.
Yeah I think its a good idea to talk to her. Maybe reassure her that you arent going to push her to do anything until she is ready..no matter how long it takes and that you'll wait. Unless of course you don't want to wait.
Get a new girlfriend instead.
Harsh