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He Says You Say
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TheSite.org is helping to endorse a sexual health campaign produced by Durex, which is all about providing women with the words they need to tell their partners to wear a condom – something we think’s really important.
The campaign follows research Durex carried out amongst healthcare professionals which identified 16-24 year old heterosexual women as a key target in need of encouragement and empowerment to insist that their partners use protection during sex.
So expect to see the campaign (and TheSite.org’s logo) promoted in your favourite magazines, in New Look changing rooms, and in STI clinics across the summer.
If you have experiences related to this issue, why not tell us how you dealt with them here, or let us know what you think of the campaign.
Also, don’t forget to head over to www.hesaysyousay.co.uk to take a look, add your He Says You Say messages and enter a competition to win a club 18-30 holiday.
The campaign follows research Durex carried out amongst healthcare professionals which identified 16-24 year old heterosexual women as a key target in need of encouragement and empowerment to insist that their partners use protection during sex.
So expect to see the campaign (and TheSite.org’s logo) promoted in your favourite magazines, in New Look changing rooms, and in STI clinics across the summer.
If you have experiences related to this issue, why not tell us how you dealt with them here, or let us know what you think of the campaign.
Also, don’t forget to head over to www.hesaysyousay.co.uk to take a look, add your He Says You Say messages and enter a competition to win a club 18-30 holiday.
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I've encountered a few such cretins and when I was younger and less experienced I was definitely taken in by blatant untruths, and maybe even had something of the mentality that I was lucky to be "getting it" from some spotty, self-proclaimed studmuffin. I'm aware of a lot of young girls (mainly younger sisters of friends) who think they have to do any and everything to impress/please a little turd, and it's close to impossible talking any sense into them. I can't say I've ever known a bloke who has been pressurised into not wearing a condom, even if the female in question is on the pill - surely they're worried about more than simply the possibility of getting her in the family way (?). All that said (rambled) I think any campaign focusing on empowering young women to take control of their sex life can only be a really great thing - of course, there needs to be education and support for young men, too, as the two things go hand in hand.
It's not a problem for me now, anyway, as I'm pretty militant about protected sex [especially if it's a new relationship, or not a relationship at all] and if that's the way I want to play then that's the way it's going to be. It draws the odd "whattabitch" comment, but I don't even hear that shit anymore
I absolutely agree. I just think that demonising men as being the only ones to be irresponsible about protection is the wrong way to educate young girls about how to deal with sex. Young people a lot of the time behave how they think they're expected to - same with crime, they'll think 'well if that's what they expect me to do, I'll do it'. All I'm saying is that boys and girls should be targeted equally in campaigns like this. It shouldn't be about female empowerment, it should be about equal, mutual responsibility and respect.
Oh definitely.
But I do think there's merit in a campaign specifically directed at young females... I'm not entirely sure why but I do think it's more likely to hit its target if directed exclusively at women. Though I could be wrong. Either way, as long as the education and issues relating to men are also given attention then it's all positive
The line 'I'm allergic to them' is coming up more and more, yet it is still very difficult to get your hands on non latex condoms. The main ones are Durex Avanti. So thats fine, you just get those ones.
Major catch.
I have never seen anywhere that will give you these for free, and when you buy them they are more expensive than the standard ones and you get fewer in the box.
~ was that really too hard?!
nor would or should you stick your manhood in a ladies gash (with the potential of being on as well) without putting some latex on
or you really could end up with an accident on your hands :yes:
Oh yeah, my employer buys the right sort of gloves.
The ones that aren't causing allergies.
i wouldnt touch a gaping open wound pissing with blood if my life depended on it
Of course i never have. But thats my problem!
Ever or without gloves?
I would really hope that if you found a seriously injured person then you would do your best to help, but maybe thats just my outlook on life.
but with a wound that serious, id never touch it open, more for their sake than mine, fat lot of use me trying to save their life if i cause them to have an infection which takes their life over a longer and more painful time frame
All the blood is leaving the body, not carrying anything back into it, and unless you have an open wound nothing's going to get out of you.
Not that I advocate first aid without protection, but a little though can make a massive difference in an emergency.
My post was more in reference to emergencies rather than the standard working day.
ETA: The advert is even in New look changing cubicles!
The Site.org logo is everywhere!!!
All the responses seem rather confrontational about the condom issue. Not sure how accurate this is as a reflection of reality... certainly was never like that for me.
Maybe the campaign is just aimed at girls who are sleeping with morons. :chin:
Like they're always full of people practising safe sex aint they!
Some men, I'm sure, are pressurised into not wearing a condom, but I seriously doubt the number is too high. Of course they shouldn't be ignored, but why on earth does that denigrate this campaign?
It is mostly men who come up with cock-and-bull reasons as to why they can't/won't wear condoms- I really don't believe allergies are going up, but its a damn good excuse. It is mostly men who play the "if you loved me" card to get what they want. It is mostly a problem for women against men.
I really don't get this attitude that if you do a campaign targeted at empowering women then its somehow "anti men", and that men's issues are denigrated. It's the same refrain when rape or domestic violence comes up in discussion- "someone think of the men!" It's "feminist" to concentrate on the biggest group of victims, after all.
Still interested to hear the excuses blokes have come up with/your responses to them...
You're lucky, cos I have, and they come up with all sorts of reasons why they don't need to wear them.
Saw an ad in More magazine today.