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The big 'O'

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
This is kind of embarassing but my boyfriend (my first one) and i having been having sex for about 3 months and he still hasn't made me orgasm. I know he feels bad about it because he feels he isnt pleasuring me. We do have great sex and i love him so much, but i just can't orgasm. Any tips or any different things to try to help?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my advice would be learn how to do it yourself, after that its always easier for some reason and you learn what turns you on and stuff
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Can you orgasm by yourself? Thats an important thing to learn how to do and what your body does/doesn't like, then you can show your boyfriend.

    Also, not all girls come from sex, foreplay is the way forwards and lots of it :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I only sometimes "O" during sex, at a certain angle
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Love:TheRedOfTheRose wrote:
    I only sometimes "O" during sex, at a certain angle

    Usually if the angle he take make a part of his body rob against the clit it does the trick...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the only time i ever have during sex was when we used a vibrator too
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    so the big O-h dear then
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    get him to do more than just thrust.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    otter wrote:
    get him to do more than just thrust.

    what? like stick it in her at the same time as well?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MrG wrote:
    what? like stick it in her at the same time as well?

    Hah!

    Now I have an image of a guy thrusting away in a corner somewhere and the girlfriend shouting "I'm all the way over here"
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lethifold wrote:
    Hah!

    Now I have an image of a guy thrusting away in a corner somewhere and the girlfriend shouting "I'm all the way over here"

    no wonder guys have such a hard time finding the g spot or the clitoris
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont understand how its hard to find the clitoris! Its like, "hmm so is this the head of your penis? *points* Or is this? *points to testicles* I'm confused :yeees: "
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Love:TheRedOfTheRose wrote:
    I dont understand how its hard to find the clitoris! Its like, "hmm so is this the head of your penis? *points* Or is this? *points to testicles* I'm confused :yeees: "

    :lol:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Love:TheRedOfTheRose wrote:
    I dont understand how its hard to find the clitoris! Its like, "hmm so is this the head of your penis? *points* Or is this? *points to testicles* I'm confused :yeees: "

    :lol: I don't understand it either, my boyfriend didn't have a problem finding it. Its really quite simple guys, you can look these things up on the net, or in a biology textbook.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My boy didnt have trouble either, and we were both new to it!

    I put it down to the hoards of porn he watched :yeees:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh well boys will be boys. :rolleyes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    After what you will experience in what can only be described as a mixture of a sneeze, a good shit and winning the bingo, you will irritatingly, ‘want a hug’ - are you sure that you actually want one? :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Love:TheRedOfTheRose wrote:
    I dont understand how its hard to find the clitoris! Its like, "hmm so is this the head of your penis? *points* Or is this? *points to testicles* I'm confused :yeees: "

    :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ha I remember the first time someone found mine! didnt even no i had it ( mind u i was rather young). The shock on my face must have been classic, and erm then my legs gave way. how cool am i lol

    Id say its all about the clit!!! Only other way i can do it is if a vibrator is used - CLit Kit from Ann Summers is a really good one. Had my first orgasm with that.

    Also try things like vibrating cock rings, shit loads of oral ( on you not him, duh) and kinda mix and match the lot.

    Have fun
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